10 Things That You Can Do To Prevent Your Significant Other From Having An Affair

10 Things That You Can Do To Prevent Your Significant Other From Having An Affair

Some time ago you saw each other and you went WOW. Plucking up the courage you started to talk to each other and you found that you more than liked each other. Time has passed and you are probably now in a committed long-term relationship or are married. I hope that you are happy in your relationship, I hope that it is one that you will be in for many years to come. Just out of interest, if you do not mind me asking, what are you doing to ensure that your relationship stays happy, healthy, loving, and long-term? If you are doing nothing to at least maintain the relationship then you could lose your partner. Here are 10 things that you can do to prevent your significant other from having an affair. Apart from the first two they are in no fixed order.

1. Communicate

While it was a physical attraction that first drew you together, it was what you had to say to each other that built the interest and kept you together. If you want to prevent your significant other from having an affair then never stop communicating. You are supposed to be each others best friend so you should be able to share things with them, such as your life. If you do not communicate how will you know what your spouse wants and needs, when to give them help and support, how will you let them know you own wants and needs. How boring would your relationship be if your did not communicate. Communication will also alert you to any problems before they have the chance to get out of control. Communication binds you together, if that binding was not there would you still have a relationship?

2. Spend Quality Time Together

You could be together for decades so does it not make good sense to enjoy that time. Communication might bind you together, but spending quality time together makes it fun. Being together gives you some respite from the stresses and strains of everyday life, it lets your relax, it strengthens the bond between you, and makes you enjoy spending time with your partner, and as a side benefit, it is fun. Work schedules, kids and the rest of life can make finding time difficult but try grab some YOU time at least once a week. What you do is up to you and it does not have to cost a lot, or anything, you can just go for a walk or curl up in front of the T.V together. You could try sharing interests and look for new things to do together. It really does not matter what you do, so long as you are enjoying life together. If you want to prevent your significant other from having an affair, what better way than to make sure that life with you is enjoyable. You are never to old to go on dates.

3. Give Them The Respect That They Deserve

Your partner is someone you love, someone who is important to you, and hopefully someone you want to make happy. Your partner is an equal partner in your relationship. They are you unconditional offer of support. They will do what they can to help you. They are the unique individual that you fell in love with, so respect them. They have their own history, their own perspective on life, their own wants and needs. Respect their opinions, respect who they are.

4. Argue Intelligently

Everyone argues, no matter how perfect you think a couple is, they still argue. The question is, will you let arguing break your relationship, or will you use arguing to make it stronger. A typical argument is two people shouting and screaming at each other. Arguing like that might give you a couple of seconds worth of satisfaction, it might help you blow of some steam, but it is also likely to make your situation worse. If you keep getting into conflict without resolving your issues then your issues will eventually destroy your relationship. By arguing intelligently you can use an argument as a sign that something is wrong, and together you can look at how you can fix the problem. Shouting and screaming achieves nothing. Being able to work through a problem calmly and rationally (which can be easier said than done), finding a solution that you are both happy with, will strengthen your relationship.

5. Trust

A relationship is built on trust. Without trust your relationship cannot function. You cannot be with your partner 24/7, it would drive you both nuts. You both have lives to lead that are outside of the relationship and you have to let each other lead them. Your life is what makes you who you are, and who you are is what interests your partner. If you try to curtail what your partner does you will change them, they will not be the person that you fell in love with. On the plus side, your different lives bring a wealth of experiences and ideas to your relationship, they also give you something to talk about. If you want to prevent your significant other from having an affair, you have to let them have a life. Just as you have to trust your partner, do not forget, that they need to be able to trust you as well.

6. Honesty

Where is the point in lying, it serves no real purpose. If you have problems then do not cover them up and hope that they will go away, they will only get worse, and your body language will betray the lie that all is well. Being only human we all make mistakes, you do and so does your partner, even I do. If make a mistake then you need to take responsibility for your actions, admit what you did, and then apologize. You might have broken something or forgotten something, what you did might annoy your partner but they will respect you more admitting your fault, it shows that you are someone they can trust.

7. Reliability

If you tell your partner that you will do something then do it. Now, life being what it is, sometimes you will not be able to do what you had promised, when that happens let your partner know. For example, if you are going out with friends and you are going to be late back, call your partner. If you are going to be late for a meal, call your partner. It shows that rather annoying them, worrying them, or lying to them, that you respect them and consider them to be an important part of your life. Some people do not like letting their partner know what is going on, it can feel like reporting in to your parents, but if you have an open, honest, sharing relationship, then it is no big deal.

8. Romance

Romance is what keeps the spark alight, it is what makes your relationship interesting and exciting. For some reason, a lot of people do not believe that they have any skill at romance. They forget that if they have a partner, there has to have been some romance along the way. Romance does not have to come about from vast complicated gestures. Romance is all about doing something special for your partner to show how much you care for them. It could be telephone call, a text, or an email to say I love you. It could be a note, left somewhere where you loved one can find it, with a message to show that you care. It could be a single red rose. There is an endless list of possibilities. If you are stuck for ideas then watch some romantic movies for inspiration. The important thing is that you keep making the gestures, bringing something special into your partners day, showing them that you care.

9. Take Care Of Yourself

One of the great universal certainties, apart from taxes and death is that things change. Every second of the day the world changes, and so do you. Are you still the person that your partner fell I love with. Have you got out of condition since you first met, maybe put some weight on. Maybe you looked more stylish when you first me, has your taste in fashion become something not to be talked about. Have you developed habits that drive your spouse to distraction. Take a long look at yourself to see if there is anything that you can do to improve yourself, would your partner want to live with a slob? If there are areas for improvement such as go on a diet or visit a gym, then work on them, but do not lose who you are, after all it was you that your partner fell in love with. You do not want your partner to look at you and wonder what happened to that person they fell in love with. You want them to look at you and think how lucky they are to be with you.

10. Have Realistic Expectations

The first point is that Hollywood might make great movies, but they are stories and not real life. You see more stories on the T.V. They show what could be in an ideal world, not necessarily the real one. Do not go into a relationship with this image of the perfect relationship in your head and try make everything fit into that image. Take what you have, but try build the very best relationship that you can. One thing that is important is to make sure that you have similar ideas regarding the direction of the marriage. You need a joint mission statement of how you want things to go. If you have massively different ideas as to your relationships direction, and are unable to overcome them, then you could be in for a lot of misery.

Time to tie it all together. Those are my 10 things you can do to prevent your significant other from having an affair. The overall theme is to build a loving, healthy relationship. You want a completely open and honest relationship where you share you lives together. You have complete trust in each other, because without trust you cannot build a relationship. Keep the relationship exciting with romantic gestures, and spend regular quality time together. Try and find new things that you can do together. Never take your relationship for granted and work at it to try build the best relationship that you can. Give your partner the respect that they deserve and let them know how you feel about them. Never stop talking to each other, share what is happening in your lives, your hopes and your dreams. If you have a relationship that is happy, loving and contented, where you enjoy spending time together, then why would your partner want to look elsewhere?

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