10 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life
When talking about female orgasm, most guys are clueless
. Many guys are not aware that women can experience different types of orgasms and can even have multiple orgasms. Partly due to this reason, many women can go for years without having an orgasm from their partner.We all know how difficult it can be in working to improve a womans bedroom experience. Some guys may be trying too hard by applying indiscriminately the lovemaking techniques they have just read without understanding that not everyone woman is the same and each woman responds differently to those sexual trick(s). Complicating this matter is some women are not sure what can really satisfy them.
Here are the 10 ways you can work on to increase the possibilities of her reaching climax, including the secret to multiple orgasms:
(1)Building intimacy outside of the bedroom
Women do not get automatically turn on during sex. The one indispensable element in getting women aroused is the existence of intimacy or closeness with their partners in the relationship. When was the last time you surprise her pleasantly by doing unexpected but appreciated things for her? This requires you to pay attention to her needs and communicating to understand what she needs in daily life. Believe it or not, creative and romantic gestures do turn women on because love and lovemaking are interconnected in a womans brain.
(2)Make her feel comfortable
If she is not able to feel relaxed she will not be able to have orgasm. Take the time to give her a back rub, massage her shoulders, upper back and neck to melt away the tension.
(3)Ignore the vagina
Do you know that extended foreplay can increase the possibilities of her coming? Spend time kissing, caressing and touching her will help to build up the sexual tension and usually the expectation will be very powerful.
(4)Switch your focus
Stop worrying about what and how you can gratify her or concerning about you yourself may disappoint her. At the particular moment when you are with her, throw everything out of your mind and stay focus on her. If you are able to focus all your attention on her first, you will be able to make love to her much more passionately.
(5)Take your own sweet time
Unlike men who can get aroused quickly and mechanically, women take a longer time to heat up, probably up to 20 minutes. The most effective way for a guy in helping her to reach orgasm is to delay his own orgasm first. The best way to do this is: penetrate as per normal and when you feel you are about to get high, simply move your hips in a circular motion as if you are swaying a hula hoop. When your little brother cools down again, continue stimulating her.
(6)Avoid using lubricants
There is no need to use lubricants because women by themselves have a natural lubricant that fills the vagina when they are turned on. The use of lubricant can distort the message her body is trying to send you because you are not sure whether she is really in the mood yet. Of course for certain women especially those elderly ones who have problems of vagina dryness, the use of lubricants may be a necessity. But for most women, it is best not to resort to external aids.
(7)Not too much attention on the clitoris
Once you have stimulated the clitoris for some time, a little thing called the clitoral hood will inflate and cover the clitoris to protect it from further direct stimulation. After the clitoris is fully stimulated, go and pleasure the G-spot.
(8)Locate and stimulate the G-spot
The G-spot is a zone that feels like the roof of your mouth and can be found about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. There are 2 basic methods to stimulate the G-spot which are by using your fingers and adopting a lovemaking position that can effectively reach the G-spot. When using your fingers, make sure you cut your nails and lubricate your fingers first. You then curl your fingers into a come here gesture with your palm facing upwards when entering her to locate the G-spot. 2 possible lovemaking positions you can use are the doggie position (penetration from behind) and the missionary position with support under her hips that can tilt the lower part of her body at an angle to facilitate G-spot stimulation.
(9)Adopting the best position
Not all lovemaking positions are equally good due to individual women preferences. Generally, the easiest position for a woman to climax is the reverse missionary position (woman on top) because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.
(10)Offer her oral sex
This is much more satisfying for women than the intercourse itself due to the over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris. Just be careful not to apply too much pressure on her clitoris right away because this area is very sensitive, which may irritate her and turn her off. Take turns to lick the surrounding area of her opening and the clitoris from time to time.
by: Ng Eng Hou