10 Ways To Tell An Unconvincing Lie And Bust A Cheating Spouse Who Tell It

When trying to catch a cheating spouse, its not so much what they say that relly matters but how they say it

. So if you suspect your partner is being unfaithful, read the signs from his or her body language.

Body language is a more honest form of communication because we often do them unconciously. They are found not only in gestures but also in the tone of voice and the way we speak.

So you want to test whether your sweetheart is two-timing you?

Heres a technique. Try and bring up the subject of infidelity and see how you partner reacts.

Or if thats too obvious for you, a more subtle approach is to ask your spouse to account for his or whereabouts but try to do so in a nonchalant and circumspect way.

Remember that you dont want to tip him or her off that you are on the prowl; because if he or she so much as suspects that you are snooping into his or her affairs, you can kiss your investigation goodbye because you can be certain that if indeed your partner is sleeping around, you wont find a shred of evidence of it anywhere anymore.

Once youve popped the question or started the discussion rolling, listen to how your partner answers. Your partner could very well be cheating on you if he or she:

1. Speaks in a monotone

Liars and cheaters in this context attempt to mask their lies by exerting contol over what they say and how they say it. Not only are they almost void of facial expressions, they also inadvertently control the natural inflections that come out in a normal conversation. Thus, when you listen to a liar cover up his or her excuses, the tone is monotonous.

2. Speaks with hesitation

Cheaters, when caught off-guard, tend to answer a question indirectly and hesitantly. Thats because they are formulating their made-up story as they go.

Hesitation is evident in the way they trail off at the end of their sentences and their speech is punctuated by a lot of pauses. Their eyes also tend to move around a lot as they search for inspiration to make their stories more believable.

3. Uses too much fillers

The prevalence of um, err, and ahh in your spouses speech also indicates uncertainty and hesitation. This is a big red flag especially if your question is simple and straightforward like, I called you at your office yesterday but your secretary said you were out the entire afternoon. Business meeting?

4. Talks fast and high pitched

Liars would want to mask details in their lies that they could not account for nd talking fast would seem to blur the details making it hard for the listener to follow. Talking fast is also an unconscious reaction to the stress of lying. This also becomes more evident as the pitch of a liars voice also becomes distinctly higher.

5. Attempts sarcasm or humor

People in clandestine affairs would naturally shy away from discussions that pertain to infidelity and cheating. But if ever the any find themselves right in the middle of it, the most they can do to avoid the topic is to use humor or sarcasm.

For instance, when asked to volunteer their opinion regarding a TV soaps take on a philandering husband, your gulity husband would say, well, the wife was asking for it.

I mean look at her, she doesnt stand a chance against the mistress. Cheaters use both humor and sarcasm not only to answer the uncomfortable question but also to justify their own affairs.

6. Over explains

As mentioned before, cheaters attempt to mask their lies and another way they go about this is by making their explanations complex and wordy.

Longer and more detailed explanation buys the liar more time to concoct a better and more convincing story. A complex explanation, with several twists, not only gives the lie a semblance of credibility but it also becomes so much more difficult to follow.

7. Is uncomfortable with silence

Cheaters are uncomfortable with silence because they are desperate for assurances that their lies are believed. For a liar, silence is tantamount to disbelief.

This is also another reason why they tend to say more than whats necessary that is, to fill in the growing silence and to further convince their audience.

8. Repeats the question

If push comes to shove and you are done subtleties, you might very well be tempted to ask your spouse a direct question point blank: Are you sleeping with so-and-so?

While that is not often a good idea as pointed out above, its not always avoidable. Now you cant very well expect a cheating spouse to say Yes, I am. Most likely, youll be hearing a resounding No for an answer.

But heres the catch: if the answer is No, of course not, then chances are he or she is telling the truth; but if the answer is No, I am NOT sleeping with so-and-so, that is very probably a lie.

9. Is defensive

Again, if the same scenario as above plays out and you cant seem to stop yourself from confronting your partner, its not so much the words most often a denial that matters but how it was said.

Generally, the guilty party will be defensive that is why they over explain and expound on their answers unnecessarily. If your spouse seems angry and has a lot of excuses rather than seem hurt and confused by the answer, then he or she just might have a lot of things to hide.

10. Is evasive

Not only are cheaters defensive, they are also evasive, giving you indirect answers.

Instead of just plain saying No, Im not to the question of whether theyre cheating, philandeering spouses would beat around the bush with follow up questions such as: What made you say that? or Why would I do that? This allows them to gauge how much you know and buys them time to make up their excuses.

by: Dale L. McClure

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