2 Of The Absolute Best Tactics To Handle A Break Up
Are you on the edge of a breakup?
Are you on the edge of a breakup?When I say "edge", I simply mean that you can feel something is wrong with your ex. You can sense that they aren't themselves, and that they are holding something back from you.
If things haven't been going so good between the two of you, you probably know what's coming.
Believe it or not, how you handle the breakup is a determining factor in whether you can get them back. Most people who break up handle it badly. They might beg, cry, and even curse at their ex. Drastic behavior is to be expected, and it doesn't necessarily kill your chances of reconciliation completely.
My best friend and his wife had several nasty breakups before they tied the knot. They've been happily married for 12 years now and have two wonderful children. However, if you can avoid acting this way, it will make your campaign that much easier.
So, how you should you handle a breakup? Here are two things that I always recommend because they work:
1. Distance Yourself. If you feel that a breakup is coming on, you must try to hold on for as long as possible. Although every part of your being is telling you to push your partner for information, you should start distancing yourself instead.
If you continuously work your ex for information, two things are going to happen. First, you'll appear extremely "clingy", and that's very unattractive.
Second, you'll succeed in angering your ex even more because they won't be able to understand how you can't know what's wrong. It simply makes it seem like you aren't paying attention. Either way, you lose.
2. Think Ahead And Start To Plan. Take the time before the breakup to begin formulating a plan to get your ex back. Nothing you can say to your ex at this stage is going to help anyway, so don't bother begging or pleading. It will only push your ex farther away.
You should begin thinking about what went wrong and how you are going to correct it once you get back together. It may seem like you are getting ahead of yourself, but you aren't. You are simply planning for the inevitable. This is also going to ease the blow when it comes, because you'll be prepared.
You've got to understand that people break up all the time, but most end up getting back together. If you sense that your ex wants to breakup, don't push them. Let them do it in their own time. If you realize what is happening and think ahead, you may be able to avoid it altogether. Even if you can't, you'll be prepared to take the next step.
by: Chris Mollo