A Guide To Winning Your Ex Back
Thank goodness you have finally mustered the guts to learn to say sorry even if at
first it seemed impossible for you to do! The dilemma would be if saying sorry is no longer enough to mend things. Just when he or she has gotten over you, you are washed by the reality that life is incomplete without your ex so you want her or him back. Learn about some of the secrets to winning your ex back as listed below:- Patience is the key. Especially after you have hurt her or him incessantly, do not expect that he/she will immediately go back after your initial apology. Remember, what you are trying to eliminate this time is the fear of being hurt again. There is no assurance that you will not revert back to your old ways and most likely, that is what he or she is thinking. Hence, the goal is to be patient and earn the trust that was lost.
- Give them space. Allow them to think. At this point, he or she may have established a very formidable force field that your presence or your tenacity may backfire and only make matters worse than what they already are. And what's more, the wronged party will not be able to miss you if you are always there. Your presence at this point in time may only remind them of the errors done, like the proverbial "rubbing salt on a fresh wound".
- Keep your issues private as much as possible. It won't be wise to involve other people. Remember that the both of you are the only ones involved and should be kept involved. Your situation is doomed to complication only if this happens. Take note that people closed to you are only prone to have biases and their own opinion over your issue hence it would only make your minds more unclear.
- As much as space is an essential, so is not forgetting to communicate to show that you are truly sorry and want to sort things out with him or her. Your total silence and distance can only insinuate your lack of interest to getting back with him or her and it won't be a surprise if he or she moves on without you.
- Keep your life going! You should remember that life goes on despite your tough times hence the reason for you to concentrate and in fact do better in life. Being an emotional or a total wreck can be in no means a reason for your ex to want to take you back.
- It is important that you anticipate the time for your confrontation to really take place after a long wait hence you should be ready with your rebuttal and defense.
You could jot your thoughts down so as to get the feel of being able to express your sincere desire to win her or him back. Try making a list of the things you can assure him or her of changing. And of course most importantly, be true to your words.
by: Peter Thompson