Avoid the Pitfalls of Wanting an Ex Back
After a breakup that you really regret about, acting based on your emotion alone is not a very wise thing to do
. I understand that the urge of wanting an ex back will be there and it might make it difficult for you to think clearly. You may even think several "good ideas" at the moment that you want to carry out right away. Nevertheless, these "good ideas" at that moment often just a result of your frustration and desire to have quick solution. In most cases, doing those will only put you on even more complicated situation than you already is.When emotions are raw we aren't actually in control of what we are doing. Our thought is clouded and we are not thinking straight. What we do in this state are hasty and not thought through. It is exactly these things that get tossed back at you. One could be to call up your ex and to beg them to take you back. At the time it seems like the right thing to do. Obviously, there aren't many things less attractive to people than someone who reeks of frustration. Once you do something like that you have just about confirmed for your ex that their decision to end their relationship with you was the right thing to do. When actually , you need to be getting them to question that decision.
You don't want to be chasing your ex lover in an extremely aggressive fashion. Text messaging them every second during the day and asking them why they broke up with you is not advisable. Telling them how much you need them and how much you care about them is not the best idea either. Remember that you are not the only one dealing with a tough time. The fact that they broke up with you means that they must be feeling awful too.
Rather than fighting the decision that your partner has made to end the relationship, simply agree to it. This might sound like very strange advice. Your thought will tell you to fight your corner and do anything you can to get them back. In a situation like this you have to do everything in your power to not give into what your initial thoughts are. Tell your ex that they are exactly right and you agree with everything they are saying. Although you may not fell this way, it is definitely the most effective move you can make at that time. Pushing against them will only cause them to push back and you will go into a cycle that will only drive both of you further apart.
Should you have already gone past that stage and you have been calling and texting constantly then don't worry. You have not blown it' yet. You can still get your respect back by confessing you had been wrong. Again, by accepting what has happened and by agreeing with them rather than fighting. This is usually what I suggest to my female friends who want to understand how to back at ex boyfriend.
You not only want to agree with them, but you can also say that you have been thinking the same thing for a while now. It doesn't have to be true, but it's the right thing to say at that time. Be calm! Don't let them see you get thrilled or flustered. Preserve a cool exterior.
As soon as you have agreed to part company' you will want to break off all contact with your ex. Give them some time to cool off while you go ahead and live your life. You might have heard about it; it is known as no contact rule ex. Make sure you go out and enjoy yourself as frequently as you can. Be active and don't stay at home feeling depressed. Once your ex realizes that he/she can't have you back and you seem to be okay without him/her, he/she will begin to question the decision to break up with you.
There are plenty great approaches to handle a breakup and reconcile with your ex lover once again. What I have described above is the best first move in my opinion, but you might have different opinion or circumstances where it's just not feasible to do that.
Avoid the Pitfalls of Wanting an Ex Back
By: Richard Wright