When we lose a close friend or relative it can be a hard time
. This is often especially true if the death is unexpected or we feel as though we could have done something to prevent it.
The truth is that there are lots of ways that we can deal with the death of a loved one and some of us are able to deal with it better than others. It's not that we are unable to cope through weakness however we sometimes just need someone to talk to in order to put things into perspective. We often don't feel able to talk to those closest to us - this could be because it is too personal, you don't want to burden them or simply because you think that they could be going through the same as you and you don't want to put pressure on them.
Keeping things to yourself rarely makes things easier and in fact can make things seem as they though are much bigger problems than they actually are. There is an old saying that a problem shared is a problem halved and this saying speaks a lot of truth.
If you are ever in a position where someone close to you dies and you need someone to speak to then don't be afraid to seek help as soon as possible. It's obvious really - but the sooner you get help the sooner you can get over this hard part of your life.
The best bet for you is to search for someone local that is trained to help you work through your problem. You can turn to the internet to help you find local counsellors. You could try a simple search for bereavement counselling however this will return results from all over and is unlikely to be very helpful. Try and narrow it down by adding your local area onto the end of your search. For example a search for 'bereavement counselling Essex' will help you find people in Essex that can help. Just adjust the search for your local town, city or area and you should not struggle to find someone that can help.