5) Learn to fight fair. This, above all else you can do for the sake of your marriage and getting your wife back, works. Learn to fight for the sake of results rather than to fight to win. Too many otherwise good marriages are ruined because the fights become too brutal. It doesn't take a physical blow to be fatal for the sake of your marriage. The emotional blows can be just as toxic. Take them out of your arsenal and learn a new way of fighting.