Conquer Social Pressure

Conquer Social Pressure

Conquer Social Pressure

Confidence can be a major issue for a lot of people when they are starting to learn how to attract awesome partners into their life. One important step that 99.667% of people forget is that you must be completely and utterly happy being alone. Does this mean that you spend your weekends at home watching LOST? No-but it can. This aloneness works to bring you into your own frame of mind through two practices:

1. If You Don't Want To, Don't This is very simple. If you don't want to go to laser-light bowling but would rather have a quite night at home with the lady, stand your ground. Your friends mean well, but you can't cave into their will if it's not what you actually want to do. Maybe you want to go to bed early because you've worked your ass off this week onfollowing your purpose. Maybe you're broke because you spent all your money on asian massageswhatever. Do what you want when you want.The first few times you may cave into social pressure, but the more you begin to set personal boundaries for your own time, the more those around you will respect them and the easier this gets. Don't alienate your friends, but stand your ground.Over time you will learn to beunreactive to people putting pressure on your free time.

2. Invite People to Join YOUR World If there is something you want to do you do it. It doesn't matter if you have 20 people interested or just yourself. If you think Shutter Island looks bad ass but all your friends want to go see Valentine's Dayguess where you're going? Scorsese baby. This is not about isolating yourself from people, it is about making suggestions that you like and that others may want to do as well. Part of being a man is leading people to have fun. Sell your ideas and be high energy. Get people excited and lead them so they can trust your direction and truly relax. This might sound like work, but you are doing what you want to do and getting the people you love involved as well. Soon you will learn enjoy leading others. Trust me!

Now how do you put this into practice? If I am the only one of my friends who feels like going out to meet people on a monday night, I'm going. It will be awesome regardless of whether I bring friends or make new friends at the bar.

If the idea of sitting alone at a bar or a concert or movie theater frightens you or seems weird to you. GOOD! That means this is for you. You must be completely comfortable in your own skin before you can walk up to strangers and expect them to give you the time of day. If you're not comfortable being with you then why should they be?

I am not ACTIVELY avoiding friends. I usually spend my weekends with bigger groups. If I want to go out during the week though and people are all busy, I don't let it affect me.

TRY THIS: One day this week go to a club or bar and just take in the environment. Don't seek to meet anyone, don't mess with your phone to appear busy. Just sit there. Enjoy it. Have fun.

Feel the social pressure. Bask in it and push against it. Feel your comfort zone expanding. Only after you are completely comfortable should you start to strike up conversations. You will not appear needy, you will not appear creepy. If anyone asks you what you're doing, you can say having a drink, enjoying the music, (anything that is true). If you want you can even tell them you're just enjoying the lovely social pressure.

Each time you do this you will feel less and less social pressure. Soon you will be entering bars, clubs, and parties already feeling like you own the place. Your tonality, body language, and dominance will be as perfect as if you were laying on your couch at home. Booyah.

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