How would you react if you discover that your wife is cheating on you
? No man would ever want to go through this situation, but this is the best way to show her yourself as a man and as a husband who has every right to direct her if something goes wrong with the relationship.
Men usually curse and hate the world upon learning that their wives are really having an affair. Who wouldn't? They even go self-destructive and mess up everything more than try to resolve the whole situation. But it shouldn't be like that; there are still ways to overcome such turmoil in your married life.
Let it Out - Tell her how You Really Feel
Men have been taught far too long that stoicism is the way to go. While you do not want to become a blubbering pile of tears at a time like this it is a good idea to let her know what's going on in your mind and in your heart.
Everybody has the right to show how he or she feels. The only thing is that you must know the proper way of showing it. Be hurt when you're hurting, mad when you're angry. There's no easy way to make your wife know about your true feelings but by telling her directly.
Reflect on her Point of View
Okay. Now that you've showed her your true feelings, have a moment being on her shoe to understand what she's really up to. This will help you understand why she's cheated on you and realize your shortcomings if there is any.
While trying to understand your wife's side, you will realize that the blame shouldn't be put on your shoulders or hers alone. In a way, both of you have contributed to the problem so try to be compassionate with the whole situation.
She was the one who cheated and she knew it was wrong. That is not your fault but now is a good time to be objective and decide if there were things you could have done differently that would have made it much more difficult for her to make that choice.