Dealing with Difficult Patients or Co-Workers
Dealing with Difficult Patients or Co-Workers
As if the actual JOB is not hard enough, add difficult patients or coworkers to the mix and you can have a recipe for disaster. Dealing with difficult behavior can take it's tole on us emotionally, leave us feeling beat up and spent. Does that sound familiar?
Research has shown 1 in 3 nurses have likely experienced some sort of physical or emotional abuse this month, have you? With all the training on policies and procedures, where is the training to help us deal with some of the most trying issues-people who, intentionally or not, maltreat and drain the life and the hope right out of us.
Next time someone is trying to tie your 'catheter in a knot' consider these tips:
Don't try and change them. Chances are good, this is their habitual behavior, that will not change unless they decide to take accountability for it. Some people are in love with their misery-sad but true.
Don't take it personally- their actions are a reflection of where they are at. They may be sick, tired, have issues at home, and have many other things that are affecting their behavior.
Set firm boundaries. "I will not tolerate being spoken to that way." "I treat you respectfully, and I expect the same in return." Statements like these teach other how to treat you and set precedence for future behavior.
Everyone wants to be heard-restate what they are saying and what you are hearing between the lines.
Acknowledge their feelings-that doesn't mean you have agree, just acknowledge their feelings.
Try empathy. I often feel sorry for people who are stuck in that state. It must be awful to be angry all the time, sometimes compassion lessons the blow.
Hold your ground. If you give in, you may be opening up the door for even more challenges, difficult people are often in love with their misery and will keep after you the more you give in.
Use fewer words. Don't blather on and on, they are not listening anyway. Short, concise messages are more likely to drive your point home.
Look at them IN BETWEEN their eyes. This will allow you to remain focused on what you need to do and not get distracted by what is, probably, their penetrating stare.
Research for solutions. Ask others, read books on bullying, search the internet-there is ALWAYS one more thing to try-don't give up!
While nothing will work every time, some things will work sometimes! Continue to collect an arsenal of tools that may also include: humor, taking the higher ground, ambivalence and/or a positive attitude. If have a selection to draw upon when the incident arrives you will be well prepared to deal with the difficult people in your life.
They may not go away, but make a decision that says they will not take you down with them, and you will not be converted over to the 'dark side.'
Good Luck!
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