Dealing with Open Communication at the Start of a Relationship: Expectations

Author: John Patton

Author: John Patton

Many people are in love with the idea that relationships are these spontaneous, magical, confusing things that often happen to us when we least expect it. This is an extremely naive, or at least immature view on relationships. If you think I am being cynical or you just disagree with me, think about how often your spur of the moment, no thought, relationships have fizzles as soon as you realized how incompatible the two of you were. The purpose of this article series is to identify the crucial areas of communication that need to be fully explored before a relationship can progress or be successful. Today's article will exam how and why to communicate about general relationship expectations. Why: The why is the simple part. If you do not discuss the basic relationship expectations with someone before you begin engaging in a "serious" relationship with them you are bound to come to a point in the relationship where someones feelings are hurt because they expected to be treated a certain way, or because they viewed the nature of the relationship differently than the other person. It is also important because it helps to eliminate the assumptions that often leave someone feeling used or deceived. How: How is of course going to be a little bit more tricky. Woman are conditioned to beleive that if he is the "one" than the power of love will overcome all obstacles. Men are conditioned to run away as soon as they hear phrases like "where do you see this relationship going" and any variation therein. It is important that you overcome this social conditioning and maturely speak about the specific direction you want a relationship to go. Where you are at in your relationship maturity is the most important focal point for initial discussions, and is something many people subconsciously probe for on a first date. This basically boils down to what each person is looking for in a relationship at this particular point in their life. This goes from "casual sexual encounters" all the way to "actively searching for a spouse" and that is fine. Just remember to be honest with your partner and yourself. Don't waste someones time and risk damaging them emotionally because you you wan to tell them what you think they want to hear. The next several articles in this series will focus on the WHY and the HOW of discussing Financial Expectations, Family Expectations, and several other key areas of relationship progression.About the Author:

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