Developing Designer Anchors
Developing Designer Anchors
Developing Designer Anchors
Closing out the Old
When change comes, or as we see it approaching, it will marked and maybe even heralded by "good byes". I think, for many, this is why is change is something to shrink back from-not only because of what we feel must be let go and its associated "emotional cost", but also because it means tackling the discomfort of something new minus the familiarity of the old.
Familiarity, as much as it may "breed contempt", also instils a sense of stability and trust. Something familiar becomes secure purely based on its consistent presence in our lives.
This is why we have such sayings as "better the devil you know...".
Some would argue that intense and quick-short and sharp-is best. Others would say change is best implemented incrementally. There is truth to both of these, but ultimately, I believe that change comes in the form required to move us forward in our personal search for wholeness.
Transitioning into the New
I have instigated changed incrementally and intentionally and I have had it thrust upon me suddenly and traumatically, but in all cases, I can genuinely see my desire for the growth it brings that fuels it and this desire becomes my ongoing anchor. This gives me fresh stamina and joy to make the transition.
I have practiced the "art of change" from this perspective for so long that even when something quite substantial "rocks my boat" , I can't help but get excited about the new cycle that I know will ride that wave in, even whilst it washes other endeared elements away.
I believe this embrace of the new, combined with an awareness and acceptance of the "pain" of letting go, became my unwavering anchor through all change. It is something that cannot be taken away from me and is larger than any circumstances could ever be.
Setting Fresh Intentions
Since my separation some years ago, I know I went through long periods of thinking that the "dust would finally settle" and I could find which way was up, and my feet, at the same time. It dawned upon me at some point that the dust would never really settle. I had become adept at flowing with repeated seasonal change and that I had actually become almost addicted to it. I don't want a 50 year career in a job, but if I did, I would handle it like I did motherhood...constantly varying things, but keeping a structure. And there's nothing wrong with wanting a 50 yr career like that, but you can be certain, it WILL evolve over 50 yrs!
I find myself working in cycles and on projects. This is where I find myself now. Having launched certain practices with my intention to "live beachfront", I'm not sure what to keep as I move into another phase that seems marked with even MORE flux! This is why I have focussed so much on "Change". At first I thought keep everything, simply let the content flow into new places, but I don't feel I've found the "flow".
I'm sure everyone experiences these things and so I just want to share how I personally navigate my way and negotiate change-AS I DO IT.
Flow like Fluid with Flux
Even when the change we are experiencing is consciously created and desired, it will bring requirements for growth with it. It has to. If, for example, I didn't need to change my thinking in order to live on the beach, I would already have been here! Anything we are not already experiencing, but are desiring, will bring challenges for us to step up in to and it will likely FEEL like we've regressed somehow.
So, even as all these wonderful things expand into being ( manifesting what I want)other pressures also squeeze for the shift to come ( new demands on time/money/ resources) that will define the abiding "state" of being. It's a constant fascinating chequer board existence that I am learning to view with ever increasing understanding of the process. It's all "written by the one hand"-one process. It may look like we're receiving from one Hand and being taken away from by the other...but it is all one singular development process.
Trust is all that Counts
Eventually, there is a place to live that is so FAMILIAR with this process, that this becomes the anchor. I remember after returning to University at 36, following 14 years in ministry that I vowed that I would "get comfortable with being out of my comfort zones". Perhaps that is at the heart of my life of flux. I also determined I would rid my heart of Fear and live in LOVE.
Consequently, I have faced my own darkest inner demons and been immersed in changes that most would find way to disturbing to invite. The outcome is that I DO have immense confidence in the process. I still feel shaken sometimes and occasionally I worry, but I know how to address these, and overall I live in a cocoon of security that has been spawned out of my personal alchemical process of constant and ongoing transformation.
I know GOD loves me and lives and breathes through me.
I know what I believe. When this way of life becomes the anchor to your soul, you will have something immovable in a universe of chaos.
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