Do you need to Detoxify your social group

Do you need to Detoxify your social group

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I have been blessed with some of the most wonderful friends and family one could hope for, yet I spent the majority of my adult life to date in an unhealthy and unhappy relationship. This relationship is now two years behind me and I feel so much happier and healthier for being out of it.

One interesting side effect of being out of that relationship has been that I've examined my relationships with other people. This didn't happen straight away. I had an Aha' moment about a year after my relationship ended. I had become close friends with someone, and used to talk to them nearly every day, I thought that they were a good supportive friend. During the course of our friendship I was working very hard on myself, seeing a counsellor, building my self esteem back up, doing a couple of courses, not pushing myself to hard. It was the first time in my life that I had consciously managed' myself. One day they made a passing remark to me and it struck me. They weren't supportive and concerned at all, they were actually controlling and monopolising. It was something innocuous , I said I wanted to do something and they said something like oh be careful, you shouldn't' and I had a flash back to a number of conversations I'd had with them and realised that they were always telling me what I shouldn't or couldn't do, and very often it was in relation to my friendships with other people.

I realised that my tendency to cover up and make allowances for people (as described in my post The difficult parent legacy' ) to my own detriment did not just apply to romantic partners, it applied to a lot of my friendships' too. I realised I had a number of people in my life that were always discouraging, negative, and unsupportive; people that let me down regularly. It was a scary moment of realisation really, almost like having your life flash before your eyes. My brain frantically reviewing all my memory files trying to separate the real friends from the people that were no more than energy vampires in my life.

This recognition was disappointing initially, but I realised that it would free me too. If I recognised these people for what they were and received them in my life accordingly, I could stop being let down and hurt by them. I could stop building them up as something they were not in my mind they could no longer disappoint me. I could stop wearing myself out making excuses for them.

I don't mean they were bad people, just that by failing to simply accept them as they are I was creating a toxicity that was poisoning my spirit, by recognising it I could detoxify. Some people I realised had no place in my life and due to their controlling nature would never be compatible as true friends for me. For the first time in my life I was brave and assertive enough to close the door on those relationships. It was one of the best things I've ever done for my self esteem. The world did not crumble because I asserted myself and stood up for myself. The friends I was left with had more room to be the great and true friends they are.

I'd recommend a detoxification of this nature to everyone, see people as they are, don't project and protect, have honest friendships, it is clarifying and purifying and leads to a fresher brighter you

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