If you've recently discovered that your wife has been cheating on you it might be that you're asking whether or not your cheating wife deserves a second chance. Cheating is a huge blow to most relationships and definitely not one to be taken lightly.
Maybe the question shouldn't be "does my cheating wife deserve a second chance?" but "does our marriage deserve a second chance?" instead. There is a great deal of mental magic that the right words can conjure for you. A simple change in language can make the difference in how you feel about second chances and how you feel about extending one to the marriage that matters so much to you and your wife.
Stop Looking for Bad Guy (or in this case girl)
As easy as it is to lay the blame at her feet and feel as though you are the injured party the real truth of the matter is that she's the same good woman that you married. Even good people make the occasional mistake. Many of them pay dearly for those mistakes.
The odds are in your favor that she didn't go out looking for someone to cheat on you with. While there are a few rare exceptions that are thrill seekers most women do take their marriage vows seriously and never intend to break them. Many of them are quite surprised and disappointed in themselves that they did break their vows and betray the trust of the men they love.
Blame does no one any good. It certainly won't save your marriage. Does your cheating wife deserve a second chance? If you really love her and want to make the marriage work then you're going to have to figure out how to look beyond her cheating and see the woman you love not your cheating wife.
Summon Your Courage and Hold Your Heart out to Her
It might take every ounce of courage you possess to offer your heart out to her again. But, it would be a fool's errand to try and convince yourself that you don't love her and don't want to give your marriage a second chance.
You simply cannot tell your heart to stop loving someone it has loved for a long time and expect it to comply without a fight.
Is it a risk?
Absolutely!
Most things in life worth having and doing are huge risks though. The real question that only you can answer is how much are you willing to risk in an effort to give your marriage a second chance?