Effective Methods in Getting A Bashful Man Out Of His Shell
No matter if you like a shy guy and just want to befriend with him
, you will need a longer time than usual before he is comfortable in opening up to you. Difficult indeed, but there are some effective ways you can apply on him to get him out of his shell at a faster rate.You cannot blame him, he is naturally shy. He is not willing to open up to you initially because he does not feel comfortable with you. There is nothing wrong with you; it is his way of responding to new friends. Hence, you have to make an effort in making him feel very comfortable with you around. If he does not feel comfortable at all, opening up to you can be difficult. It is not advisable to be too aggressive; allow him time to feel relax and he can gradually feel comfortable with your company.
A guy who is shy can have very little things in mind to talk to you. Even if he has something to say, he may most probably think twice before he decides to speak. Be initiative to find some topics which he is interested in to break the ice and strike a conversation. In today's modern society, girls making the first move are not something unusual.
There are topics which he is really interested in but you might feel a little bored. Since you intention is to get him out of his shell, you may just have to bear with you and stick with the topics. Your objective as you can remember is to get him talk to you continuously so that he can feel good with you.
Since he has just started to open up to you, do not be judgmental about what he has to say. If he finds that you are almost all the opposing his views or criticizing his points, he might likely to hide back into his shell. Usually a normal person will think that you do not like him or her when you are too judgmental about his or her views, let alone a shy guy whom we are taking about here.
Most of the time, a guy is shy is because he has very low self-esteem. It may be inborn or he may have bad experiences in the early parts of his life. For whatever reasons, your job is to let him know that he is performing superbly. When he learn to know that you are encouraging and friendly, he will definitely open up himself up to you.
The environment plays a great part too. A shy guy can have more difficulties in opening up to you in front of a group of your friends. With more strange faces around, the surrounding will only make him feel more uncomfortable. Be in places where there is only the two of you or at the maximum, with just another third person.
Don't push him too hard because you will only be putting a lot of pressure on him. When he is stress, he is uncomfortable and you know what comes next. Be patience and you should see positive result in days to come.
Getting a shy guy to get out of his shell is not something impossible. Learn a few tips and apply on him and you will sure to see him gradually opening up to you.
Effective Methods in Getting A Bashful Man Out Of His Shell
By: Carla Wise