Everybody Wins With Spontaneity
Dating has always been called (among other things) a game
. If we are to build on that definition of dating, then it follows that it is possible to create a strategy or two to ensure that you win, or, with regards to dating, score, to use the term. In fact, it would be apt to compare dating to a board game, like the Game of the Generals, or a strategy game like StarCraft, because of the following key concepts:
There are what certain things that one doesnt know to exist for certain, but feels that they are there. This can be called known unknowns; in the Game of the Generals, you dont know what the opponent is using, while in dating the one youre dating might opt not to reveal some things just yet.
Psychology plays a crucial role, mind-setting in particular; in StarCraft, there are instances when one can succeed but is either lured by the opponent to thinking that he will fail, or have second thoughts and just give up anyways. In dating, there are instances where the woman tests the man by making it seem that she doesnt like him (even though, in reality, she is interested), or there are women that seem too hot or out of your league, to name a few terms, to the point that men give up even though, in reality, they have a chance.
However, there is one huge difference between dating and a game: in the latter, there is always a winner and a loser, but in the former, there is this ideal situation wherein everybody wins. That situation is what any man should aim for, as well as keep in mind, since it is a good psychological boost to think that there will be no losing situation. Some ideal strategies for dating include:
The usage of social networking sites. For example, if you are living in Brisbane, then signing up on Brisbane dating websites is a good strategy. This will allow you to filter through prospective dating partners, as well as assess them, i.e. their likes and dislikes, before actually dating them, so you can plan out your approach, i.e. where you take her out to, how you talk, etc.
Always bear in mind that the objective is the situation where everybody wins. This cannot be emphasized enough; by ensuring this, it is both a form of respect to the woman (since she is not taken advantage of in this case) as well as a good psychological boost, because you wont be distracted by the thoughts that you might end up in a disadvantageous position.
Put your best foot forward. For example, in relation to the first strategy, when you sign up on a Brisbane dating website, you should make sure that your profile looks respectable. If you have a stable job, say so; if you come from a prestigious school and have many achievements, flaunt it. Remember: it isnt always about the physical; women do not like men that seem dull, irresponsible, etc., regardless of how good they might look.
Plan out your approaches but be spontaneous at the same time. Theres a difference between strategy and tactics. For example, your basic strategy might be to be a gentleman (which means formal dates, semi-formal clothes, etc.); your tactics will be spontaneous. You do not want to bore her by seemingly having everything planned out, and using clich lines as if you have a script. You should improvise along the way; if she doesnt know what to expect next (in a positive note, of course), you will have her attention for a long time, and she will not be bored. This applies not just on actual dates, but also when you are approaching prospective dates.
Those are a few key strategies when you are looking for a date as well as actual dating. But those are not the only strategies; remember, as in the last tip, spontaneity is a big boon; make your own strategies. As with any game, dating evolves constantly, and so does the strategies one uses in order to succeed in it. And remember, everybody wins.
by: Hudson Roach
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