Fetishes and fantasies to rekindle your sex life
Fetishes and fantasies to rekindle your sex life
A healthy sex life is important for any marriage to work. But over time couples tend to slow down due to parenthood, work and other factors. Sex is the key to a long and happy marriage. If you have lately noticed that you are not having much "together time", then there are a few tricks that you can apply to bring the spark back. To know more, read on.
There are certain things that are still taboo in our society. Fetishes are one of them. There are many adventurous couples out there who get a kick out of such fetishes just because of the fact that they are considered taboo. Anal sex is one such. Before you sneer at the thought, you should know that there are many people who enjoy it. Think of it as a much tighter version of vaginal sex. Done properly and with all necessary precautions, it is perfectly safe. The first time for the receptive partner may not be too pleasant, but over time and experience both the partners would be able to enjoy it. Before you try it out, always make sure that you use a lot of lubricant. Avoid oil based ones as they are harder to wash off. If you have any reservations about engaging in the act, the receptive partner can get an enema done. Taking a shower together is also helpful. Always use a condom to minimize the risk of STIs as the rectum is a breeding ground for bacteria. For those willing to take it a step further, they can also try out anal fisting. It is perfectly safe, provided it is done properly and by a caring partner. If there is any indication of pain, do not proceed further.
One of the most common fetishes for both men and women is BDSM. BDSM stands for Bondage Dominance Sadism and Masochism. It requires a lot of trust between the two partners to perform it properly. One of the partners needs to dominate over the other. But that is not to mean that one can do whatever he/she feels like. It means giving over your body to be controlled by your partner. That is why trust is very important. There are a lot of items that couples can use. There are handcuffs, whips, blindfolds, etc that can be used for BDSM. In most cases, one or more senses are blocked of the submissive partner. This heightens the sexual pleasure. Humans usually become more tolerant to pain when aroused. So, sex toys like whips and nipple clamps can be used in a high state of arousal.
Two of the most common fetishes for men are foot fetish and panty fetish. There is an entire genre of porn films revolving fetishes. Although these are quite common, there are some fetishes which are quite disturbing and downright perverted. Having sex with dead bodies is one such. As long as the fetish does not become a source of disturbance for anyone, it is alright. But if things get too far, medical attention might be required.
Sexual role-play and fantasy is a favorite with women. Believe it or not, in a poll conducted by a leading men's website, it was revealed that the number one fantasy of most women is sleeping with a stranger. It is a common misconception that when it comes to sex, women are not open to trying out new things. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is a known fact that women are capable of staying fully aroused up to an hour after an orgasm. What is not known is that women are perhaps more adventurous than many men. The difference lies in the fact that while a man can get aroused almost instantly, it takes some time for a woman to reach that level of sexual arousal. But once reached, many women can be insatiable. Role play can be very effective in bringing the spark back in your sex life.
Another great way to spice things up in the bedroom is dirty talking. If you already do not involve it in your sessions, then chances are you were brought up in a very conservative environment. And if you think that it is a male only dominion then you have been probably living under a rock. Dirty talking can be very effective in arousing a partner. However, you should be careful not to use terms that might be insulting to your partner. It all depends on an individual's taste and upbringing. While some words may mean nothing to one person, for others it can be downright perverted. So exercise caution while using them. Also make sure that all that is meant to remain in the bedroom, should remain in it.
A great way to bring variation in your sex life is by having sex in places other than the bedroom. One can try out such places as the living room couch, the dining table, the kitchen or even on a washing machine. These places are usually not meant for it. So, having sex in these places can give a high to many couples. Kinky activities such as these ensure that while the couples have a great time together, it also brings them closer emotionally. There is a certain level of trust that is required for couples to enjoy such activities. There are some couples who are into voyeurism and exhibitionism. They get a tremendous high knowing that someone else is watching them make love. This is however not recommended for those who are not comfortable with it. In some countries this might even land you in jail. It is better to have some knowledge regarding laws governing such acts. In most cultures there is a fine line between fashion and indecency.
Couples who are bored with their sex life should try these things out to rekindle the old passions. There are many things that they can do, but they need to make sure that both of them are comfortable doing it. They should not feel uncomfortable doing them and should get the maximum satisfaction.