Flirting With Men – Killer Tips for the Shy Girl
Flirting With Men Killer Tips for the Shy Girl
Do you think that you're too shy to really flirt with men? Do you feel awkward and nervous when approaching a guy? Do you rehearse what you're going to say and wind up missing out on an opportunity to talk to a hot guy because your mind tells you that you're going to sound like an idiot? The truth is that flirting with men can be even easier than you ever thought. All you need is a little courage and a few good pointers.
Smile Everyone looks more attractive when they smile. Not that big cheesy smile that looks and feels fake. Smile that contented smile that comes across your face when you think of happy thoughts or something pleasant. If you have difficulty pulling it off try thinking of walking on the beach or how you feel when you eat a really tasty piece of cheesecake or any one of your other favorite desserts.
If you want to go with a little more flirty you can try a bit of a wry smile. This is the type of smile that you might use on a guy that says that you want to do all sorts of naughty things to him. It is a knowing smile with a seductive air to it. Either way, smiling at a guy should be the basis of all flirting and it says without a word that you find him attractive and that you like him. A smile means the same thing in every language worldwide so you don't even have to worry if you don't speak his language.
What to Say If you are nervous about what to say the honest to goodness truth is that what you say means very little when you are flirting with a guy. Studies have shown that only a very small percentage of communication when you are flirting with a guy is verbal. Approximately 90 percent of all communication is non verbal and is done with your body.
/>Of course, you still have to say something, right? Studies have also shown that a simple hello works well for beginners along with open ended questions that are non threatening. Something as simple and random as "what is your favorite kind of pizza" works just as well at breaking the ice as any cool line that you might read in any popular women's magazine.
The Eyes Definitely look him in the eye when you are talking to him but be careful not to stare. Look him in the eye, hold for a bit and then glance down and then look him in the eye again. Looking away can send a message of disinterest or preoccupation, such as looking for another guy or one of your girlfriends. Your focus should be on him and by looking away you can make him feel that you have already lost interest in him. By looking down you send a flirty message that says that you are into him without saying a word.
Keeping constant eye contact can be effective in intimate conversations and can create smoldering passion when you are discussing something really racy but in the beginning of a relationship it can just come off creepy. So save the intense eye contact for later.
Just remember that effective flirting is mostly what you do with your body. It is nonverbal cues that tell a story to a guy and let him know that you are interested him. Most guys are pretty oblivious so don't be shy or worry that you're coming on too strong. Chances are that unless you do come on a little strong he is never going to get the message. So once you smile that beautiful smile and initiate a conversation with some good eye contact it is time to turn up the heat. Let him know that he's being flirted with instead of guessing whether you might have been sending him a message.