From Dating to a Relationship - Is it Safe to Let Him Know That You Want Commitment?

From Dating to a Relationship - Is it Safe to Let Him Know That You Want Commitment

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During dating, there comes a time when a women starts to wonder how committed a man is to her. She wants a commitment and wonders if he feels that way too. This can become a major source of insecurity for her, especially if he seems not to be moving the relationship forward at the speed she would like. So, under these circumstances, is it safe to ask him where the relationship is going and if he wants the same?

Generally, we avoid bringing up the subject initially, for fear that he may react negatively to our questioning, and we will feel rejected or may even lose him as a consequence. Often this fear proves to be justified in the early days of a relationship. Many a woman has regretted bringing up this matter too early when he subsequently vanishes out of her life.

I would therefore say that it is not wise to go storming in with your demands for a commitment before you are sure that he is experiencing some degree of emotional attachment and actively showing signs of wanting to engage with you. However, as time goes on, it is important to be honest with yourself and him about what you want.

You could go for months in a new relationship hoping that your partner will commit to you or meet your needs, but if you are not prepared at some stage, to put yourself out there and let him know what it is that you want, you will experience a lot of frustration and insecurity.

Therefore, you must let your partner know what you want from a relationship. Honesty is absolutely essential in getting your needs met. Saying nothing or nagging him is highly unlikely to get you what you want. The key is to express your preferences in a positive loving manner which takes his feelings and his needs into account.

Now that you have told him what you want, you will need to be strong enough to cope with his response. Accept that he may need some time alone to think about what you have told him; that he may have his own reasons for not being able to give you what you want. In that case, you will now at least have the information that you need to make decisions about your future with this man.

If you want commitment and it becomes obvious that he can't or won't commit, accept this and move on. Look for someone who can. Once your man realises that he is losing you, he may well have second thoughts about a commitment. Even if you don't get what you want from him, by risking rejection, you have freed yourself to find someone who is willing and able to give you the commitment that you want and deserve. Don't settle for less than your heart's desires. Keep on searching for the relationship of your dreams.

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