It is not always your fault. It is usually a two way street. After all-it is not possible to find a book that will tell you precisely how to deal with every conceivable kind of relationship problem you are likely to encounter-is it?
Having said that,I wish I had had some simple advice such as I am going to outline here when my relationship break up occurred. It would have lessened the pain.
1) Do not allow yourself to become negative in your thinking. Keep a positive outlook,despite everything You will be the loser if you can not keep your emotions reigned in.That is such an important piece of advice as simple as it sounds.
2) Understand that your former involvement with your boyfriend is finished. A "new leaf" is in order.Have a makeover. Look your best.Keep a positive outlook and let it shine.
3) Be sure not to "hound" your boyfriend. It will be well worth the wait-and, after all, is he not worth the wait? He will fall over himself in his desire to get back with you-but...take it slowly. If you do not-your relationship could flounder very quickly. You can do it. Patience always pays off. She is a sweet girl!
When you have him back,you will be happy to see how he responds to the "new you" and you will see a beneficial change in him too. So-instead of the whole thing being a time of negativity it can be a time of establishing a better future than you would have had prior to the break-up.
It is has been said that when we have an accident and break a bone-that bone, when it is healed-is ten times stronger than it was previously. Get the picture?