Get Your Ex Back Using Reverse Psychology
Reverse psychology..an interesting theory that can prove very useful in most of the cases
. I said most of the cases because I'm not going to lie you and start to brag that this is a simple thing , simply because people are so individual , our human behavior is very difficult to predict. Our identity makes us unique in every single way but still this method has proven a lot of successful stories.First of all let's underline a few major components of reverse psychology : the main idea that you should be focusing on is not getting your ex back , at least not now , you have to achieve a good self control before you do that . What I'm trying to say : I know your feeling down , you probably are thinking about your ex 24/7 , for everything you do you find a connection with your ex , but you have to stay calm , stay controlled. Even some of the tips I give you will be a little heart-breaking try to focus. You must be self controlled all the time , don't beg , don't start crying in front of your ex , telling how much you need their affection , even thought it's totally true.
Try not to make any contact with your ex , and by that I mean absolutely NO contact : emails , messages , comments on face-book , twitter , instant messaging all of this are on a list of mustn't do. If you stumble upon your ex on the street or at a restaurant , don't give the impression that you're feeling miserable and desperate. Play it cool and that will be a major step in getting your love back. You see people are a little bit strange regarding things they love or want - we always want what we can't have and this applies even in our subject : we don't miss what we have until we don't have it any more.
So what I'm trying to say is you'll have more chances to get back together if you don't offer your ex this control over you , knowing that you are a sure thing , that you will always be there in the background. It decreases your ex's attraction to you. But seeing that you're not desperate and needy , you seem quite all right ( it's just an appearance , but it does the trick very good , if you can maintain that self control) , that sure thing that I mentioned a few lines ago , will probably fade away. Now the balance of power is shifting , your ex will start to question their selves if they made the right decision by leaving you , your ex will see you very confident , and probably realize what a wonderful couple you were.
Another thing that I forgot to mention , don't try to make your ex jealous , I know I said no contact with your ex , but you don't have to bring another person in your life , after all you want your ex back , not a new lover.
If they do come back to you, and they will if you do this, and there was a good connection in the past , then the new more attractive, more self sufficient you that doesn't need anyone will really get their minds and more importantly their hearts thinking. Let's take an example : the lack of neediness, added strength is a BIG plus if you're a man. If a woman felt she left you as a boy and then she finds you as a man a few weeks later, then you are in with more than a chance with her (and every other woman). This will also increase your mystery to her as it should come as a bit of a surprise to her.
All good. Especially for you as a person. Men are more visual creatures in general, so if they see the ex and she's lost weight and looks sexier and more confident, he will think twice. Women are both visual and emotional, so even if you show up like Brad Pitt but are still the needy, weak, non committable boy they left, the most you can hope for is "ex sex".
It's true that you can't make anyone fall in love with you, but you can increase the chances that they will. These chances are far higher in one way with an ex as they've already fallen in love with you before. Time apart and you acting like an adult, not being needy, getting physically fitter and more attractive will attract them far quicker.
Or if you are trying to understand the behavior of men and women please feel free to read these articles : Understanding MEN and Understanding WOMEN (check resource box - link 1 & 2) .
by: Jonathan O.