When anyone hears the words that their wife is no longer in love with them it is devastating. This is when you really have to do some soul searching about why she would feel that way.
Have you changed over the years? How different are you to the guy she fell in love with?
Circumstances and time can change people. Every relationship needs attention and unfortunately most people are busy working and doing those special things little things for their spouse is often forgotten.
The first step in how to get your wife back sounds crazy, but you have to step back and give her space.
The worst things you can do is try and win her back by pleading, and promising to make big changes. Because it is easy to call at any hour and leave messages on their phone, or leave text messages, this is what most people do. The problem with this approach is that it is the last thing that will attract your wife back to you. It will in fact do the opposite; it will reinforce the idea that she was right to leave you.
Can you look back and think about what attracted her to you in the first place. Where did you hang out together, did you love going to the movies, out for meals together or just sit in and enjoy DVDs. If you can recapture that person who was fun to be with, positive and full of energy then your wife is going to be attracted back to you.
Think about how you treated her on a daily basis. Women like to feel special, and although you knew you loved her, did you show her that. When you first started dating chances are you made an effort to let her know how much you cared for her? The times you did thoughtful acts and gave her gifts for no reason other than you loved her and wanted her to know.
Think about your relationship and if getting back together is the right action to take. If you are convinced your relationship can be saved you need to work out a plan of action. At the moment you are giving your wife some space so now is the time to work on yourself and your plan.