Getting Back Together After a Break Up - Can It Work?
So you are thinking of getting back together after a break up
. Can it work? Well that depends really on how much you both want it to and what caused the breakup in the first place. You are more likely to be successful if you have the backing of your friends and family.Often we break up when we are young, as we are both immature and just don't know what we have; until we lose it. Other times we can kill off a relationship, because we relocate with our jobs or our families. Often the break up has nothing to do with the people involved just the timing or distance is wrong.
But occasionally there were specific reasons why we broke up and if these reasons still survive, then you need to work out why you want to get back together. Absence can make the heart grow fonder but be aware that memories get warped and you could be remembering events that didn't quite happen that way. Experts call this the "rose coloured glasses" effect.
However, if you are thinking of getting back together after a break up, there must be a physical and emotional attraction between the two of you. Physical attraction is great and this is what in the main brings couples together initially. But unless it is accompanied or followed over time by an emotional bond, the physical stuff just isn't enough to prolong a relationship.
Long-standing thriving partnerships are based on shared admiration, love and loyalty. If you miss out any of these three key ingredients your chances of spending your twilight years together weaken. I know that Hollywood films would have you believe that a great romance is based on lust and physical attraction. You can be easily fooled into thinking the man just has to sweep you off your feet and you will live happily ever after.
Unfortunately, real life isn't like that and you will have certain trials to face as a couple. A couple, who are deeply dedicated to each other, on every level, is much more likely to survive the problems; real life throws at them.
Perhaps you two were together for a long time. Maybe you even had a family together before you split up. If this is the case, you need to be sure that you are getting back together for the right reasons and not because your kids want you to. Just as a couple should never stay with each other exclusively for the sake of their kids, nor should they get romantically involved again for this reason.
Getting back together after a break up can be an exciting escapade. Just take things slowly and who knows, perhaps a marriage or remarriage may just be over the horizon.
Getting Back Together After a Break Up - Can It Work?
By: Dave Islington