Guys-A Simple Guide To Understanding Women
Guys-A Simple Guide To Understanding Women
Does it ever feel like no matter what you say to a woman, you just can't say the right thing?
Do you ever have problems understanding what women are saying to you?
I always wished I had a guide to understanding women. It would have made my life SO much simpler. Just a short 100 page paperback that explained the basics so I knew what I was dealing with. I could keep it in my back pocket, and when the time came, I could just sneak a peek and know exactly how to respond to her.
Look, I love talking to women. Because if there's one thing that's guaranteed, there's never a dull moment in a conversation with a woman.
But if you don't know how to handle yourself, it can also be a real challenge, and that's what kills the fun for most guys.
Ever been in a conversation with a woman, and she says "FINE"?
What does that really mean?
She's obviously NOT fine. In fact, she's about as UN fine as she's going to get. It's her special way of shutting down, and it's an indication that you've LOST connection with her.
Women can say one thing and mean something completely different. Raise your hand if you've ever had THAT kind of conversation with a woman...
Well, when you're just meeting a woman for the first time, or in the early stages, you'll probably encounter a whole different set of challenges.
I've got some serious tips on communicating with women that will help you. They've gotten me through some wickedly frustrating moments, and if you can use them, all the power to you.
This is your REAL Guide to Understanding Women...
- WHEN A WOMAN SAYS THIS:
"I want a sensitive guy..."
- WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS THIS:
"I want a guy who can be sensitive to MY feelings."
She does NOT want a guy who is sensitive in the way of breaking down in tears on a regular basis, or always "Sharing his feelings and heart" with a woman.
It may sound cold and old-fashioned, but this is true: Women don't feel attraction - gut-level, stop-her-heart attraction - for sensitive new-age guys. (S.N.A.G.s)
You see women know that they live in a rather volatile and bumpy ride of emotions a great deal of the time, and they need someone who can ground them and give them a feeling of safety.
Write that one down in your Guide to Understanding Women - then highlight it and circle it.
On to the next interpretation...
- WHEN A WOMAN SAYS THIS:
"Yeah, sure, let's go out this weekend. Give me a call on Saturday afternoon to confirm the plan."
- WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS THIS:
"I'm not really interested, or I'm waiting for better plans to come up. But I don't want to say 'no' and shatter your hopes, so I'll take the easy way out on the phone, and when you call on Saturday, I won't answer. I hope you'll take the hint."
Ever had this one happen?
TRUE STORY: I once called a woman ten times before she finally answered and yelled, "Get a clue!" into my ear. That was a harsh lesson.
One of the cold hard realities is that women (especially younger women) are always trying to plan their time on the best bet. They'll make several commitments and take the one that looks the best. That's usually 5 minutes before you're supposed to meet her.
Very often, you're just a backup plan.
It's not that you don't have potential, but you haven't shown SERIOUS potential to get her to think: "WOW, going out with him will be more fun than anything else. I'll cancel my plans to pick up my lottery winnings to meet up with him."
When you KNOW you're going to have a fun time, you won't turn it down.
And it's your job to communicate that to a woman so that she will know this and drop anything and everything and spend time with you.
- WHEN A WOMAN SAYS THIS:
"I'm not ready for a relationship..."
OR
"I think we should just be friends..."
- WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS THIS:
"You seem more like a brother or a 'nice guy' to me, and you're just not raising my feelings of attraction. I don't feel any spark of chemistry. Mostly because you don't seem all that exciting, or I feel like you've got an agenda."
Wow.
That one hits you right in the gut, but it's also very true. I would have saved myself a TON of pain and suffering if I'd had this spelled out to me in a guide to understanding women.
I had women in the past that would go out with me on dates and get super intimate with me, and then - when they smelled a little bit of "wuss" on me - they pulled the "let's just be friends" excuse out of left field.
What?
REMEMBER THIS: Women do NOT ask to be friends with a guy they feel sexually attracted to.
This is RULE 1 in my personal guide to understanding women:
When a woman feels attraction for you, she simply does not have the will or the desire to stop herself from acting on her desire.
If you wanted a woman, would you ever find yourself telling her, "I really think we should just be friends for a while to see how things go first."
NO WAY! You pursue her like she's water to a man dying of thirst. Well, maybe not that eagerly. But you get my point.
We simply do not refuse to act on sexual attraction when it's there. We just go for it. It's human nature.
And even if she just came out of a horrible relationship, a woman will still jump on the first bad-boy that drives her wild. So don't ever fall for that "my heart is vulnerable" or "I'm not ready" garbage.
We're ALWAYS ready for the person we really want.
If you've ever been a woman's "buddy" and listened to hear tale of heartbreak, only to have her go jump in some other guy's bed, you know exactly what I mean.
The funny thing is that you don't have to spend that much time understanding what women are saying to you if you spend enough time communicating your confidence and strength to HER.
Interpretation is unnecessary when you're being clear about your confidence, your Alpha masculinity, and your comfort with your sexual desires.
Unfortunately most guys never really learn what it takes to do this the right way...
Women keep their secrets well, but once you understand and decipher what it is she's looking for in a guy, you'll have no problems translating her words into what she's REALLY saying.
Carlos Xuma
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