I'm new at this and need to know how to handle my cheating wife
. Is this what you're trying to figure out? Thank goodness that most of the men around the world in your shoes are new to this. Cheating wives is something that is relatively recent, at least to the size and scope (nearly half of all people who admit to having affairs are women) that it is today.
However it's alarming to note also that the number is growing in recent years and that there are reasons to that. One such reason is the fact that most women have careers of their own thus placing them on equal footing with men than ever before. Your question is still the same though when you found out that it is your wife who is involve with the cheating.
View things from her Perspective
There are three sides to every relationship story. There is her side, his side, and then there is the truth. You're going to have to move out of your zone of familiarity and try to see things in the relationship with her eyes so you can understand her side of the story to some degree.
You are very willing to figure out why she's cheating on you. Then you need to ask what it is that the other guy has given her that she is not getting or feeling anything from you. Try to find out the answers to that question by looking at things through her eyes. You know your wife more than enough that and that the said task is really doable though could get really tough at times.
Make up Your Mind on What to Do Next
It is going through some heated see-saw of emotions, that problems are encountered in handling a cheating wife. The fluctuations of interest between wanting to work things out and just move on to the next chapter of life without the cheating wife. That is common all the way though.
You need to take a little bit of an emotional time out so that you can figure out what it is that you really want to happen now that you know about her cheating. Some marriages will make it. Unfortunately, not all of them do. Whether or not yours will get through this depends on both of you deciding what you want to happen and forging a path to get that outcome.
Assure for No Repeat Performance
One of the most important things that must be done when working on a marriage after cheating has thrown you both for a loop is taking decisive action to prevent this situation from happening again.
Find out why it happened now and make sure that situation never arises, for either of you, again.