Help! I Am Driving Him Further Away! How Do I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?

If you are serious about getting back together with your ex boyfriend you will need to discover what you are doing to drive him further away

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Arguing

A main cause of many break ups is arguing, usually about things that do not matter and then bringing it all back up again when you speak with him.

Ask yourself these essential questions.

1.Is the matter that caused the break up important enough to get all the attention it is?

2.Do you need to argue about this matter right now?

3.Can anything be changed if you win the argument or is it better just to nip it in the bud and move on?

4.Is the matter even worth arguing about?

If you have answered no to any of the above questions then let the matter go. If you bring it up every time you speak to your ex boyfriend of course you will drive him away, nagging just is not sexy or fun.

Many relationship break ups can be prevented if a large argument is settled and often the argument was completely unnecessary in the first place. So let the matter go and the tension and stress die back down again.

Worrying about what others think

Perhaps you are not arguing, maybe you are driving him further away by pretending to be something you are not? If you want to get back with your ex boyfriend just be yourself, he fell in love with you not an actress or mannequin.

Who cares what others think? It doesnt matter if people think you are too fat or thin, clever or stupid or even too serious. If you are so wrapped up in concerns about what other people think of you the real you is not allowed to shine and it is the real you that your ex boyfriend had feelings for. You are an individual and special, shout it from the roof tops, I love me!

Being over emotional

If you burst into tears every time you speak with or meet your ex boyfriend, you are causing him to run fast in the opposite direction. Your ex boyfriend did not fall in love with a blubbering wreck. I know it is hard and youre hurt but you do need to calm down and control those emotions. Theres no need to be the ice queen with no feelings, but learn how to express how you feel constructively without begging, pleading or crying.

The best way to get your ex boyfriend back is to take a break and time out from the relationship. Remove yourself emotionally and mentally from the relationship and allow both of you time to calm down and think things through.

Contact should be upbeat and positive and that is next to impossible if you are still simmering over an argument, beating yourself up or getting upset at every chance to communicate.

When you and your ex are no longer feeling hot headed about the situation that led to breaking up then that is when you both should get together and talk through a solution.

by: Seren

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