Home Based Entrepreneurs – Will You Give Up Negative Emotions?

Home Based Entrepreneurs Will You Give Up Negative Emotions

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A few days ago I was invited to attend an assembly at my daughters school, where myself and the other parents were asked, what we would give up for lent?

Now I don't pretend to be a particularly religious person, and I couldn't really come up with a meaningful answer, until a couple of days later, when having had "bad day" (which in the context of some of the terrible things happening in the world this week, hadn't been that bad really) I found myself having a bit of a 'pity party'.

I found myself thinking about the question again, and realised that the best thing that I could possibly give up for Lent, were any negative emotions that don't serve me well as far as achieving my main purpose in life was concerned, or in helping the people I care about to achieve their hopes and dreams.

More importantly, I decided that it was time to give up the need for any form of sympathy from other people. We all need a helping hand from others from time to time, but sympathy in itself is a very negative emotion, when what we actually need from other people is empathy.

Sympathy doesn't serve us when we are down, it just perpetuates the downward spiral. Empathy on the other hand offers understanding coupled with constructive help and advice.

Looking for sympathy from other people is the expectation that they will climb down into our hole with us and agree how bad we have it, when what we really need is for them to throw a rope down into the hole and pull us out. In other words to be empathetic rather than sympathetic.

It's so easy to reply to the question, "how are you?" with a long list of all the things that are wrong in our lives, out of a self indulgent need for sympathy, but I've personally found that it invariably doesn't help and you know what? the other person doesn't need to hear it either!

Far better in my opinion to ask for constructive, purposeful help when you need it, and to offer it in return, when you see that a good friend is struggling in life.

Giving up the need for sympathy is all about creating a new habit to replace the old one, just like installing the new habit of getting up at the same time everyday. Once again it's about the about the small changes that we can make in our lives on a daily basis.

So that's what I am giving up for lent, what about you? What negative emotions will you let go of? Do you agree, or disagree? Please comment below!

Until next time

Grahame Brown

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