How To Avoid Divorce Starting Today

If you are possibly facing divorce here are a few tactics to try before you do divorce

. Sometimes by giving your marriage a second chance you may be able to turn the situation around.

First I would like to say start with working on communication. Communication can be a very serous problem in most marriages. You may be saying well what can we talk about. You can start by saying to your partner what is on their mind and why are they having so many mixed and bad feelings.

The next step after you ask this question is to listen. There is an art to listening. If you feel that you are not a good listener there are some great books that can help you with the art of listening. Let your partner pour their heart out to you.

Make sure that you do not interrupt but only gently nod with understating. If your partner has a hard time talking ask some gentle questions about how they feel about the marriage and listen to them . Make sure that you do not criticize or argue during this session of communication.

Next ask your partner can we try at this marriage a little longer. If he or she says that they would like to try to work on it a little longer then you need to look at yourself.

If you are a person with no patience this is the time to get some. If you shout and criticize this is the time to be kind. In life it is not what you say it is how you say it.

You can still get your points out but be kind and gentle. I don't care how tough people say that they are the human heart still hurts inside. Remember all things are possible.

Now both of you may be hurting in this relationship and may not feel like forgiving each other. I would like to tell you that it is better to forgive.

When you forgive you will feel better even though you may still feel hurt. We are only human beings and we all make mistakes and hurt one another.

Another great step on working on a marriage contemplating divorce is to start dating again. You both need time for yourselves as a couple. Yes this means if you have children finding a baby sitter and dressing up nice to look good for one another.

Dating will give you the opportunity to have some time alone to talk and enjoy perhaps a good movie, a trip in the country, or a nice dinner.

Remember when you met your partner you were looking your best and you were careful about one another feelings. You need to do this again in life in order to make a marriage work and to avoid divorce.

by: Felecity Aldridge

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