How To Control Negative Thinking And Rapidly Become Happy
How can you be happier more of the time, no matter what your circumstances
?
How does one person manage to be up and going for it day after day, and
others just can't quite get it together? They're always negative.
They're always down. They're always grumpy. They're always feeling
tired. Why?
Well, it really is a choice more than anything else. Unless there's
something physiologically wrong with you, or you're brain damaged, or
you are chemically imbalanced, then it's what you're thinking.
You focus on what you can do something about, on the solutions, instead
of focusing on what you can't do anything about, or the problems.
Happiness really comes from positive self-talk. It's from a positive
thinking pattern. It's from giving yourself a primary focus on things
you can do something about. It's a choice and you make that choice
moment to moment, day to day.
About six months ago, there was a gentleman who was referred to me by
his doctor. He was referred to me for severe depression. He was an
executive for a major company and he had been laid off. He had not been
able to find work for almost a year. Anti-depressants didn't seem to
be working, nothing he tried seem to help.
When he came to see me and I was diagnosing what was going on, one of
the things that immediately stood out, was that he was continuously
focused on the bad. He focused on the fact that he couldn't find
interviews. And when he did find the interviews, he felt so desperate
to get the job that the interviews were lousy.
He totally forgot to think about all the positive aspects of his life.
He had a great relationship with his wife. He had wonderful children
who were happy and healthy and they loved school. They liked doing
things with the family. His health was superb overall, except he was
depressed. He was physically strong and healthy. He was brilliant, he
was always learning new things. The guy had a lot going for him. But
he forgot about all of that.
He spent all of his time focused on what wasn't working. "I can't find
a job. We need money." Desperation. It caused him huge stress and
lots of problems.
The first thing I had him do was to begin to focus on what he could do
something about, his thinking patterns. And when he began to change
his choice of focus, all of a sudden, life began to be a little better.
His depression began to lift. His wife said he began to be more like
his old self. He began to be more energetic, and he and his children
had more fun playing together.
He had an interview set up for a new job. When he was going there,
instead of going in depressed and desperate, he had worked on his
attitude. He went in thinking, "I might get it, I might not. But, I
believe I can make a positive impression on these people. This would
be good for me and good for them." He went in with a proactive,
powerful mindset. Guess what? They hired him on the spot at more
money than he was making prior to getting laid off!
After they hired him, his boss said the primary reason they hired him
was that they wanted somebody on their team who was as positive and
proactive as he was. They said his demeanor, the way he carried
himself, and his positive attitude was exactly what they needed to take
their company up the next step.
He was that man. But he had stopped focusing on the positive and
started focusing on what he didn't have instead of what he did have.
We each have that choice. Every moment, every day, you make that
choice, either focus on the good stuff you have in life and what you
have, or to focus on the bad stuff and what you don't have. Focus on
what you don't have, you'll have less. Focus on what you do have; the
world will give you more. The universe supplies all kinds of things to
you. It's your choice of focus.
Make everyday a positive focus. Be proactive. Take steps and each one
can help move you closer to your ultimate goal, to the things you want
to attain in your life. You can have whatever you want,better
relationships, improved health, more money, better lifestyle, you can
have it all. You can transform your life moment to moment, day to day.
The Best of Success to You.
by: Dr. Larry Iverson
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