How To Deal With Rejection

Here is a perspective on how to deal with rejection that may help.

Each of us remembers at least one instance where we were rejected by the opposite sex. Be honest, it hurt. Usually that memory is of someone to whom you were physically, emotionally, and perhaps intellectually drawn to and then shot down. A natural attraction.

Even thinking about it, your cheeks go crimson from humiliation.

But now try to think of all the other times you've been rejected. Its impossible to remember them all no matter who you are! Ask yourself honestly: Did those instances really have that much of an effect on my life?

The beautiful thing about rejection is that no matter how charismatic or attractive someone is, theyve still been shot down just as much as the average Joe or Jane. Its not realistic to want every person you come in contact with to leave your presence thinking the world of you. After all, it is a large world.

Next time you get rejected, just shrug your shoulders; make it appear as though you really werent that interested. Theyre just people, after all. You don't know them. They're not in your life. They have been rejected themselves... It simply doesnt matter.

Now, Im not saying that the feeling of rejection will disappear completely. Its part of our nature. It belongs with us, helping us feel even more elated when were accepted. And chances are the person who accepts you is a quality person worth knowing. So take a chance at being accepted. If that person is not good for you, get away... You've got your life to live, to fulfill. Not hers or his.

Stopping talking to people out of fear of rejection is never the way to go. If you want it to hurt less, work on your self-confidence. Build it up, and even though revenge isnt as sweet as they say, chances are youll have to start rejecting people. Build your self-confidence and set standards for yourself; fairly high standards at that. The opposite sex will see that you know what you want... and also what youll settle for. They will be drawn to you for the obvious display of the power you have over your own life.

There isnt a mess of emotions pouring out of your skin, even if there is a mess trapped underneath.

Dont take social life too seriously. There are a lot of people out there who would like nothing more than to see you crash and burn. These people are hardly worth your attention. And they know it. And that can cause them to behave the way that they do.

So have fun. Genuine fun. That alone is enough to attract someone. Be yourself, and if you dont know who that is, either find yourself or create yourself.

Andrew Doggett with Joshua Doggett

http://New.SelfConfidenceLife.com

http://www.SelfConfidenceLife.com

by: Andrew Doggett

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