How To Get Over Being Angry At Your Wife For Cheating
How To Get Over Being Angry At Your Wife For Cheating
It isn't easy to get over being angry at your wife for cheating on you. It was a huge betrayal of trust in your marriage and her love as well as a low blow to your ego. Both blows sting quite a bit and neither will be easy to recover from.
Is your anger justified?
You'd be inhuman not to be angry at a time like this.
The bottom line is that it hurts when someone you love betrays you. It doesn't harm your macho man image and won't make you seem weaker among your peers if you show a little bit of anger over the situation. A good session of venting over a punching back might even be in order.
But when does anger cross the line from normal into the realm of problematic?
You've probably heard a thing or two about that thin line between love and hate. There is a lot of truth to that saying. Emotions, whether good or bad, have a habit of sweeping people along and leading people to do all kinds of things they wouldn't do under normal circumstances.
Here are a few tips to help you get over that unhealthy anger and express your anger in a manner that is healthy and productive for your sake as well as that of the marriage.
Learn to Vent Your Anger
Punching bags are excellent tools for this. But you can also vent with pillows, running, writing music, creating works of art, writing letters, or even writing poetry. The key is in letting out all of your feelings so you can return to healthier and more productive lines of thought.
Express Yourself
It's important that you are able to say what you have to say. It isn't always important that you say those things to your wife.
One great exercise that many therapists use (because it is so effective) is to have people in situations like yours, sit down and write a long letter getting out all the things you want to say to your wife. Discuss things that relate to the affair and other problems in your relationship that have been building for years.
Get it all onto the paper and then burn the letter. The release of watching all that pain and rage go up in flames is therapeutic in its own right.
Put the Past Where it Belongs
Where is that? It belongs behind you. When you learn to leave the past in the past you'll find that many of the problems in your relationship have just evaporated. Solve your problems. Find a place to move forward from. Once you do, leave all the problems of the past behind you and only look at what lies ahead.