How To Get The Best From Your Videochat Sex Adveture
The first thing to remember when you enter a performer's room is that whether a paid
up member or a participant in free chat, you are in every sense of the word...a guest . The performer is entitled to expect certain standards of behaviour from everyone in the room and also entitled to remove you from the room if you do not respect the boundaries they have set.- Next, the one piece of advice that may make you the guest that every performer wants in their room. Remember that performers are people. Don't treat them like pieces of meat in the butcher's window. Talk to them as real people and you will often be surprised by the fascinating and vibrant personalities that abound in these rooms.
- Every performer will run their room according to their own individual style. So it is important you find the performer whose room and style are right for you. Don't spend time in a performer's room telling them to do things differently. Most performers response to those type of comments in free chat will be to tell you to go and watch someone else...the fact is they are absolutely correct. Whilst you may not find what is happening in the room to your particular taste...there obviously are other guests there who are very satisfied and dont want the performer to change. Check your negativity at the chat room door...if you arent enjoying it, say a polite goodbye and go somewhere else.
- Now a little etiquette...its not that hard to at least say hello before making sexual demands of a performer. Also, a good old fashioned please or thank you doesnt go astray. I'm constantly amazed by the rudeness displayed by many of the "guests" in these rooms. Just remember, if you are looking for a fun, sexy interlude with a hot girl or guy, barking orders and imperious demands is probably not the way to achieve it. It seems many people imagine the anonymity of video based sexual interaction removes the need to behave like normal decent human beings...this is not the case. Treat performers with respect and your experience is sure to be much more enjoyable.
- Understanding is another commodity thats very thin on the ground in the world of live adult video chat. If you are thinking you would like to take a performer to private then for goodness sake, talk to them about it first in freechat. Tell the performer you would like to take them to private and allow them to tell you when they are ready for you. It takes a little time for any of us to become sufficiently aroused to enjoy a climax...which seems to be what most people are after in a private show. Don't expect to bounce a performer straight out of relaxed freechat into a private show without warning and have them cumming for you on cam in 60 seconds! Yes...I know for many it is all about the money...but I would say to you that if the dollars spent are more important than the experience, then you probably are never going to enjoy a truly satisfying private show with your chosen performer. Two things to do here...allow the performer to "prepare" a little and also be prepared yourself to spend a few dollars to make sure it is great for both of you.
- and while we are talking about the dollars...think about the amount of credit you need to enjoy a really good private show with your favourite performer ...and make sure you have enough credits to cover it. I have to say that for me, taking my partner to the point of no return is as sexually satisfying as actually being there with them in those final moments...which means if I'm planning on going there with a performer, I'm prepared to pay for the journey as well as the final destination ; ) If you are going to quibble over the extra dollars it might take to get there, then you might as well not bother. Incidentally...if you are like me and happy to pay to help your chosen performer get warmed up, let them know...there is a lot of pressure put on them to... well, perform! Take the pressure off and pretty soon the temperature will be rising for both of you!
- Which brings me to the begging! If there is one thing that gets very tired, not only for performers, but also for members and guests in a performer's room, it is the constant begging for nudity and masturbation in free chat. Lets get it out in the open right here and now...performers can be penalised with loss of money and also suspension of their right to perform on a site if they disobey the rules and show nudity and/or overt sex acts in freechat. There are a couple of reasons...first of all to protect underage surfers who may access freechat and also of course, to ensure that guests will take them private and pay for the services that are being offered. It doesnt really matter what the reason is...performers will be penalised if they are caught. Of course many will say..."but I've seen someone else do it"...certainly it happens, but inevitably the performer will be caught and penalised. Dont forget ...the integrity demonstrated by a performer in abiding by the rules in the contract they have signed can also be an indicator of how they will treat you as a member or guest. In the end, if you use these services, you know the deal...its "pay to play".
- Do unto others ...remember that the other people in the room are real human beings too. Treat them with respect and you will find that most will do the same for you. A good performer will always attract a core group of interesting regular guests and just interacting with others in the room can be fun too. If you are a paid up member and have formed a relationship with others in the room then you can often enjoy some interesting chat while a performer is in private. Just remember that everyone is entitled to have their own little bit of time with the host. Sometimes it is hard if you have spent a lot of time in a performer's room to remember that others are there for the same reason you are. Take a few moments every now and then to make sure you arent "hogging" the chat, and if you feel that you are, then back off a little and let others have their chance.
- Take a reality check... If I had a dollar for every time I had seen a guest ask a performer for their address or telephone number in free chat, I would be a very wealthy woman! Let's get real here...any performer who gave out that type of information in an open chat room would be asking for trouble. More to the point...the person you see in the room is called a performer for a reason...you are here to see a show...and they are here to provide it for you. They do have a real life, and they are entitled to keep it private. Dont hound them to give you their personal information and imagine you will end up meeting them for some clandestine fling. The chances of it happening are extremely remote...and if a performer really likes you that much you always have the option of getting to know them better in private...
- and while we're on the subject of exchanging details... There is a reason why live sex chat sites have rules about personal contact outside of the site. Those rules are intended to protect you, the performer and the company which manages the service. A few simple rules...Dont give your details out in freechat...you never know who is watching; Dont believe every sad story you hear and send money to help fix it; Think carefully about the information you share in the room...if a person has bad intentions it doesnt take very much specific information to find you; Dont do anything that could put you or others in personal or financial danger in the real world because you have gotten carried away by the fantasy.
- Surprises can be fun too. There are times when a performer will put themselves out for you in freechat and perhaps you would like to say thankyou. Don't forget that if you are a member and have credits in your account, you can "tip" or "surprise" the performer. For example...say you have a little foot fetish...if a performer is happy to show you their feet in freechat to satisfy your fetish, why not say thankyou by sending them a surprise? I have seen gay men send a surprise to straight male performers to say thank you for making them welcome in freechat, room regulars tip to say thanks for playing a favourite song...and once again, treating a performer like a real person, showing that you appreciate what they do for you is all a part of forming good relationships and having a great experience.
Overall, using live adult sex chat services is pretty much like any other situation involving guys, girls, conversation, foreplay and down and dirty sex...just slightly disconnected by the fact that you may be thousands of miles apart or however close, never in the same room with your chosen partner.
So, employ the same basic rules of social etiquette that you would in a face to face meeting with a potential lover at a party at their house and you'll always get a much more satisfying result at the end of the encounter!!
Be nice to yourself and to others and have fun...
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by: Carter Buche