. The damage could have been great that it would be difficult for a relationship to survive after the cheating issue. However, the recovery of a relationship depends on both spouses.
However, the recovery of a relationship depends on both spouses.
So, how do you clear out these mine fields so you can make your marriage better after cheating?
Get to the Heart of the Matter
It's time to clean out all the skeletons in your marital closet. Dig them up, pick the bones clean, and then bury them once and for all. Be sure you get what is needed out of the ordeal and that you can leaves these bones behind you for good.
Human as we are, we like to dig into the past and expose its rottenness. What we don't know it that it could still be as painful as experiencing it just like in the very beginning. Nothing is more painful than raking an old wound.
These recollections still cloud the recovery of marriage until both spouses decide firmly to work hand in hand with the upturn.
Set up Personal Space
Even spouses need some time away from each other. Over familiarity breed contempt as the old saying goes. Take note that you should never allow marriage to put you in a box. Although you are a part of a family with a single entity, this should not stop you from finding yourself.
Guard your personal space but understand there is a huge difference between being private and being secretive. You may need to give up some of that private space if you were the one who cheated but it should only be for a little while.
Make every effort to won your personal space after an infidelity issue by making your life open to your partner. Behave appropriately and try not to put yourself in situations that can cause future arguments.
Make Argument Positive and Productive
Disagreements are part of marriage. We are only human and are two individuals with differing views on the world. No matter how similar your goals and opinions may be there are likely to be times when you disagree on the method.
You must learn to argue and fight fair if you want to accomplish anything in your marriage. If communications completely break down every time there is a disagreement then your marriage is going to have a hard time moving forward.
How can you make arguments positive and productive?
Stop fighting to win the argument.
Argue NOT to win.
One person talks at a time-even if you need to get out a sand timer.
Listen and not just hear the argument of your spouse.