How To Predict If Your Marriage Will End In Divorce In 3 Minutes

Did you know its possible to predict, with 87.4% accuracy

, if a marriage is doomed to fail from the start?

It sounds unbelievable but this is 100% true!

Leading marriage expert John Gottman has developed a proven formula to predict marital stability and divorce in couples. In fact, he can predict with 87.4% accuracy if a marriage will last and he can do it in as little as 3 minutes.

How? He looks for these 4 simple relationship killers:

1. Criticism. Criticising your partner is different than offering an opinion or having a complaint. It is a form of attack that chips away at their confidence and self-esteem. For instance, this is a complaint: Youre an hour late, I was starting to get worried can you call me next time youre running late?" This is a flat-out criticism: "Youre late again. I was worried! You never think about how your behaviour affects other people. Would it kill you to think about someone other than yourself for once?

2. Contempt. When you communicate by using sarcasm, ridicule, and unhelpful body language such as eye-rolling, youre being disrespectful. It can make your partner feel worthless and unloved, and rarely moves the conversation forward in a positive way.

3. Defensiveness. When you feel like youre being accused of something its natural to be defensive. But this type of communication generally just creates more tension. In other words, if you give your partner an excuse (I was busy at work/My meeting ran late/My golf game ran over) as to why youve not done what you promised, it just reinforces that your reason (work/clients/golf) takes precedence over their request.

4. Stonewalling. When you avoid conflict either because you are not aware of your own feelings, or because you are afraid of arguing a situation can implode. This is because, rather than confronting the issue with your partner, you disengage and stonewall the conversation leadership and when this happens repeatedly, the problems tend to accumulate.

By learning about and being aware of these four relationship killers, you can work to avoid them and transform your relationship. This means the success of your marriage is not guesswork its an actual science.

And by just observing yourself, and making sure youre not exhibiting these few traits, you can actually save your marriage from extinction.

ACTION TIP: In your next conversation with a loved one look out for any of these 4 relationship killersand when you notice yourself doing one of themtake a deep breath and approach the conversation with an open heart.

by: Marry San

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