How To Win Back Your Girlfriend When It's Your Fault
You should have seen this one coming
You should have seen this one coming. You know you haven't been on your best behavior and now you've been dumped by your girlfriend.Taking responsibility and holding yourself accountable for your actions is the first major step when you want your win your wife or girlfriend back. But this is not about beating yourself up for the mistakes that you made. You need to forgive yourself, because, after all, you have to live with yourself the rest of your life.
And that doesn't mean just forgetting all about what went wrong. That will get you nowhere in your quest to win your love back. Spend time working out what mistakes you made, why you made them, and what you can do to stop making them again.
Ask yourself these three questions:
- Are you still in love with your her?
- Was there enough good in the relationship to be worth saving?
- Are you prepared to admit it was your fault AND take action now to get her back?
Hopefully you answered "Yes!" to those three questions. There needs to be time and space after a break up before you try reconciling. The amount of time and space is going to vary from one relationship to another. The amount of time and space is going to vary depending on whether the break up was an amicable on or it was one full of anger and emotion. I urge you to take the time, give each other space. What I cannot do is tell you for how long. Only you can decide that. But coping with breakups this way gives you the greatest chance of getting back together
So, three more questions for you...
- What clues are there when your relationship was working that can help you get ex back?
- Here's the big one - are you prepared to forgive yourself for the mistakes you made?
- Are you prepared to be patient, knowing it will be worth it?
When is the time to start a dialog with your ex? When you have forgiven yourself and taken steps to remedy the mistakes that were made in the past. Now, go and talk with your ex. Reconciliation is all about effective communication - calm and non-blaming. Focus on the other person by being attentive and caring in conversation.
Don't rush things. You may be at peace with yourself and the situation, but she might not be feeling the same. She may still need more time and space for her personal healing process. If that is the case stay positive and be supportive of her. She will appreciate you for it and one day will realize just how important you are to her.
by: Deane Alban