Encourage your spouse to find their own interests as well
. If they gave up a hobby because they felt they needed to spend more time with the children, push them towards rediscovering it again. If they have been putting off going back to school to finish their degree, go get the application forms for them and help them complete and submit them. Show your partner that you're supportive every step of the way and ensure they understand that whatever else you two focus on in your own lives, it takes nothing away from your bond.