Husband is Distant - Do you have an emotionally distant husband

Husband is Distant - Do you have an emotionally distant husband

Dealing with a distant husband can be quite frustrating to say the least. Husbands who are distant often have a passive-agressive personality trait. In fact, most men are what are known as distancers.

This has been what I call "hardcoded" into men stemming back from the caveman days. They have an internal survival instinct "fight or flight".

If you husband is distant, give him time alone, time to disconnect. Don't give him too much time though or he might completely isolate himself from you. You want him to know that you care (without being overbearing). You need to let him know that you appreciate him and that you love him..

You also need to understand why he has become distant. He's probably not going to come right out and tell you so basically, you have to solve the puzzle. Here are few traits to look for when trying to figure out your husband

*Is he feeling physiologically uncomfortable? Is that why he has become distant?

*Is he feeling suffocated? Are you constantly telling him what to do and nagging him? (Yes my women friends, unfortunately, we can be known for that at times) It is our nature to keep everything in order

* Is he giving you mixed messages - You know the whole come close but move away approach.

Has your husband been hiding behind the newspaper, spending his evenings working, watching TV, playing video games or spending most free time on the computer?

Sometimes men use the distancing as a way of emotionally punishing his spouse. Sometimes men just push away when you are becoming emotionally too close. They may even be distant because of outside stresses that are not necessarily related to their wife. Unfortunately, the wife is often the person who is closest to the husband. This also leads to the wife becoming the emotional punching bag some times because it is the easiest person for him to take out his frustrations on. Although not fair, it's the truth.

The way you handle this is the key to making or breaking the relationship.

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