I Slept With My Ex! How This Impacts Your Chances of Getting Them Back
"I slept with my ex." Oops
"I slept with my ex." Oops. You're probably saying this with a lot of regret. You should be. Depending on what kind of a future relationship you were hoping for with your ex, sleeping with them may have dramatically changed that. Adding intimacy to an emotionally charged situation like this is a recipe for disaster. At the time it probably seemed incredibly logical. Now you can sense that it just wasn't a good idea.Sleeping with an ex shifts the dynamic between the two of you. Obviously you were on speaking terms before the intimacy occurred. This was likely because you both were still holding onto some lingering feelings for one another. It's hard to sift through all the raging emotions after a break up. There are days when you feel relieved that the relationship is behind you and then other days when you literally ache to be back with your former lover.
Once you reach a point where you genuinely feel that you want another chance with your ex, everything changes. The way you interact with them is different. You hold onto every word they say hoping to hear a small signal that suggests they want you back too. Your entire focus is on how you can win them back and keep them this time.
That's one of the reasons intimacy seems like such a grand idea. It's all about closeness, right? If you sleep with your ex it clearly shows that they want you back too or does it? Sex has little to do with love after a break up. If you two enjoyed a robust sex life when you were together, that might be all your ex misses now. They may long for the physical closeness and nothing more.
You can easily gauge how your ex feels after you two sleep together. If it takes days or even weeks to hear from them again, they're probably not holding their breath hoping to be with you again. In fact, they may only be calling you again now because they're looking for an intimate partner.
If you fall into that role in your ex's life, it's very difficult to get out of it again. If you truly are hoping to rekindle the romance that has been lost, steer clear of being intimate with them for now. Keep things on more of a friendship level until you can rebuild the foundation of something more.
I Slept With My Ex! How This Impacts Your Chances of Getting Them Back
By: Gillian Reynolds