If 'How to Win My Ex Girlfriend Back' is Your Priority, Read On by:Frank McGinty

It's been a painful break-up, you know there were faults on both sides

, so now you want to know 'How to win my ex girlfriend back'. In this situation many people start to overdo the analyzing and pondering, and end up blaming themselves or their ex. - Or both!

Mulling over the reasons for the split at this stage doesn't usually work. When you're both in a heightened state of emotion, it's almost impossible to pinpoint the exact causes of the breakup. Feelings are running high, and that's not the best time to engage in rational thought. It only succeeds in leading to more emotional exhaustion - and that's the last thing you both need.

A Dependable 'How to win my ex girlfriend back' Strategy

Let's look at the first stage in the 'How to win my ex girlfriend back' strategy. Believe it or not, but -for the reason given above - you should put some distance between the two of you for a time. Focus on something other than the relationship, preferably some form of personal development. Start a new hobby, meet new people, take that course you've been meaning to enroll in. Even start thinking about how to relate to others in general. (Focus on yourself, NOT your ex.)

'Time out' for a month or two, making positive changes, can only help.

Strategies like these will help cool the cauldron of emotions you were drowning in. You will learn more about yourself. And some of the reasons for the breakup - in spite of your intentions to ignore them - may become glaringly obvious.

Soon you'll be at the stage where you can be honest with yourself and make an objective decision: Is 'How to win my ex girlfriend back' my Number One Priority?

If so, then some direct contact with your ex girlfriend is now in order. But beware: it's never good to crawl or whine or beg. That's emotional, and usually harmful.

You've heard the expression, 'Play it cool!' Now's the time to do just that. If you've spent enough time apart - and you're right for each other - then she'll be missing you just as much. You should both give the signals that you're doing fine on your own - but, hey, why not try again? (No whining!)

Soon the flame of your romance will be rekindled. You've each had time-out to reconsider, regroup, and both of you will probably be better and wiser for the experience But remember: avoid over-analyzing the past. No one wants a stilted relationship. Focus on being positive, optimistic, caring and loving.

This, however, is only the start. If you want to really make it work, why not seek professional help? If counseling is not for you, there are many excellent relationship materials available online.

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