Is It True?

Often times, Is it true? is the only question I need to ask my clients

. These three little words in the form of a question have a way of kicking your dirty little thoughts right out the window.

Next time you have a negative feeling, whether youre angry, irritated, stressed or sad, ask yourself, Whats the thought that is causing me to feel this way?Once youve identified the thought, apply the three little words, Is it true? to your thought.

Heres an example.

Feeling:Im irritated.

Thought:My husband plays too much golf.

Question:Is it true? (It must be verifiably true.)

Answer:No.

The question stops you in your tracks, doesnt it?What amount of golf is too much? According to whom or what? If its according to you, are you God?Why do you get to decide if your husband golfing two times a week, three times a week or five times is too much? What if he decided that your owning more than three pair of shoes is excessive.Youd call him crazy. And you would be right (what woman owns less than 15 pairs?).But this hypothetical thought would most likely create tension between the two of you, possibly an argument. Why?Because of his thought thats why. Same applies to you.Your thoughts, when they remain unquestioned, cause you pain.Start the inquiry process with these three little words and you will be amazed how it shifts your perception.

Heres another example.

Thought: My mom should stop giving me advice.

Feeling: Uncomfortable, anxious, annoyed

Question: Is it true?(Is it verifiably true?)

Answer: No.

Why is no the answer?Because your Mother gives advice, and when you argue with that reality, as Byron Katie says, You lose, but only 100% of the time.Stop fighting with reality.Each time you fight with what is happening, you create a lot of resistance. Its like swimming upstream, against the current or going the wrong way on a one way street. Your Mom gives you advice because thats what your Mom does.Shes always done this and she probably always will.Surrender to what is and you will release the fight.

Heres another example.

Thought: I cant quit my job.

Feeling: Stuck, angry, frustrated

Question: Is it true?

Answer: Of course not!

You will most likely discover a cluster of other poisonous thoughts surrounding the I cant quit my job thought which may include I owe it to my family, Ill never make enough money elsewhere, I dont know what else to do, yada, yada, yada.Apply the three little words and notice how often your answer is no if youre telling the truth that is. You will be amazed at how this loosens and alters your belief system which will ultimately improve the situation, enhance your relationship with the other person and create better feeling thoughts. Isnt that what we all want? To feel better?I know I do!

by: Jackie Gartman

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