Is There Hope In Marriage Through Counseling After The Cheating?
A tragedy to the marriage is what many people see out of cheating
. Bizarre though is the adverse statistical data relating cheating and causes of divorces. The difference between the two would lead you to think that there are things that can be done to work out and pull together the shaky marriage and avoid the more disastrous event of divorce. Marriage counseling is one great start.
Now what could be the better option, individual counseling or couples counseling?
Depending on the seriousness of the situation there is no reason why you shouldn't consider both. Yes, counseling is not the least expensive method for saving your marriage though there are low cost options available. If you are really committed to saving your marriage though it might be the only effective option that is available to the average couple. Before you bit the bullet though keep these things in mind.
1)It is in digging deep down and finding the root cause of the problem that made counseling work. Unraveling those parts that went wrong is one of the more important initial steps in having things in place. It's not usual that people would just wake and decide at hand that they're going to cheat on their spouses. That's never normal really. For your marriage to have hope of being saved, those underlying issues must be discovered.
2)Counseling opens the door of communication between you two. Talking is most difficult, when there's a wedge or an open wound in the marriage such that brought about by discovery of cheating. Afraid of committing mistakes and saying anything wrong, you would opt to do the worse and that is saying nothing at all. Uncomfortable silences bring nothing to the table in solving issues. That's not how things work. Often the problem will just multiply.
3)Seeing the issue through the other's eye is another thing that counseling allows you to. Women and men are way different from each other, the former are Venuses while the later are Martians. It's usual on a relationship for a person to say one thing but the other person hears the same differently. Try to learn to listen from your spouse's ears your own words. There will be a whole lot of difference in the way you to communicate with each other. It's one of the best take home lessons marriage counseling gives to save your marriage even after cheating.