Just Be Honest - How to Create a Healthy Relationship From the Start - Part 3

Author: John Patton

Author: John Patton

This is the third article in a series designed to provide guidelines for communication during the early stages of a relationship. The previous two articles have focused on financial concerns and general expectations. This article will examine family expectations. As always it is not necessary to have read the previous two articles, though if you find this article helpful, the other two are structured the same way.

Why: One hundred years ago it was expected that as soon as you were married you would immediately begin having as many children as you could. Modern expectations have a much wider array though. We no longer feel the pressure of a short life-span and social expectations. Woman and man are exploring career paths that do not as easily support a traditional family.

How: This is a much more acceptable topic for discussion. "How many kids do you want" is sometimes a default question on a first date, interesting and important, but not carrying any sense of obligation or commitment. Below are a few specific topics to focus on.

-When and How many. The answer can range from "O and never" to "10 as soon as I get married". It is ok to disagree on this topic as long as you are honest. It is a terrible thing for someone to expect to have children shortly after they are married only to have their spouse constantly putting it off.

-Adoption. Some people are comfortable adopting children, while others find it uncomfortable and strange.

-Discipline. If you do decide to have children, what are you disciplinary expectations and concerns. What methods do you prefer?

-Education. Public school, private school, home school? This is an area in which people naturally assume one thing, only to be later surprised with an answer outside of their expectation.

Beyond children it is important to discuss other family roles. Who is going to clean, cook, do laundry? It is important as always not to assume that everyone in the world has views similar to yours.About the Author:

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