Losing is tough, no matter what the sport or the age. What some kids don't realize is that it is unrealistic to win all the time. Understanding that in competitive sports there is always a winner and always a looser and knowing that sometime you will be on the losing side can be difficult. Parents and coaches need to foster understanding and acceptance to team members emphasizing the idea of losing gracefully.
Here are some tips to help parents in teaching their kids that it is ok to lose:
Emphasis the Attitude to Have Fun and Give Your Best
In today's society there seems to be a huge emphasis on winning, and sometimes it goes as far as winning no matter what the cost. Parents need to relay to their kids that while winning is great, having fun and doing your best is what counts.
Teaching Positive Sportsmanship
Have conversations with your child athlete emphasizing the use of good sportsmanship and positive attitudes. Being able to congratulate the other team on their win is important and shows that they are a good sport.
Praise
Always praise your young athlete whether they win or lose and point out how proud you are of them when they lose gracefully.
Talk About Losses
Don't just ignore a loss, instead talk about it so that feelings to not get out of control. Losses happen for a variety of reasons and it is important for your child to know they are not to blame. Losses can occur because the other team was more skilled or your team may have just had an off day. Help your child to get past the loss and look to the next game.
Role Modeling
Athletes take cues from their parents and if you show a positive attitude, chances are they will to. Never criticize a loss or the way a team member has played.