Learning to DANCE with life

Learning to DANCE with life

Learning to DANCE with life

As we move through our lives we can never know in advance quite what's in store for us. Although people make plans and try to anticipate the future, any plan we make will only ever be conceptually ideal because how can we possibly account for everything that happens along the way?

The one thing that is absolutely certain is that every now and then we'll have the rug pulled out from under our feet. The unexpected happens, we're challenged in a way which initially disturbs our equilibrium and we're presented with a choice as to how we react.

One of the most fascinating things about what we class as 'problems' is that what we think is the 'problem' is never the real problem. The real challenge is how to shift our thinking because it's our thoughts that send us in a new direction. If we ever think that the solution is outside of ourselves we're headed for trouble. As Byron Katie said:

"As long as you think the cause of your problems is "out there" - as long as you think that anyone or anything else is responsible for your suffering - the situation is hopeless."

A great little acronym that is useful to create a shift in our attitude is the DANCE model. I'm not sure where it came from but I have a sense it may be Thomas Crum http://www.aikiworks.com/

The DANCE model works like this:

D is for Desire. This means knowing and always staying connected to your outcome. Keep your intentions clear at all times. Remember that we only ever class something as a 'problem' because we perceive that it's in the way of getting our outcome. The very best place to put any problem is in the past.

A is for Action. Take massive action towards your outcome. Do something every day, raise your game and keep the momentum going. Even if results are slow just the process of being in action keeps you motivated.

N is for Notice. Be aware of the feedback and results you're getting. Notice the direction your actions are taking you in.

C is for Change. Be prepared to change what you're doing if you're not getting the result. Someone told me an aeroplane is actually off course for up to 90% of a journey. It's only by constant adjustment that it eventually reaches it's destination.

E is for Emulate. Find people who've already done what you're about to do, or similar and emulate their success. By modelling successful people's thinking, beliefs and processes you can often massively shortcut the learning curve.

Ultimately, dancing with life means to be on purpose and acting out of your vision. You may not be able to predict the future but you can choose to dance on a moving carpet rather than have the rug pulled out from under you.

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