Male Chastity - Making The Most Of The Male Chastity Lifestyle
Male chastity has to be one of the most liberating
, electrifying and fulfilling lifestyles you can imagine, and having practised it with my husband, John, for 2 1/2 years now, I share this insight with you from my personal experience.
But like anything worth doing or achieving, it does take some time, effort, planning and forethought to get it right. And by "right", I mean something that's right for you, not something that's necessarily endorsed or "approved of" by other people who have different ideas from you when it comes to deciding how it "should" be done.
The first thing you need to decide is...
What do you actually want from the lifestyle?
If you or your husband genuinely don't want long-term male chastity and orgasm denial, and instead prefer gentle chastity play over an evening or even a couple of days, then there's no point in investing hundreds of dollars for a hand-crafted made-to-measure stainless steel chastity belt.
On the other hand, if, like me, you prefer and plan to keep your husband in very, very strict male chastity, say for several months or more, then you almost certainly want something more substantial than a simple plastic device (although not always: I know at least one man who wears one of these more or less 24/7 with no problem, and he finds it very effective. In contrast, my husband, John, not only found these simple devices uncomfortable, but he could masturbate while wearing them!).
Assuming you're going for the longer term, and, in truth, most couples even if they start off intending only to "play", generally are pulled towards longer and longer periods of denial as they realise the enormous benefits it can bring to them both, then in general a full belt is the best choice for most couples most of the time.
These belts are hand-crafted and made to measure specifically for your husband. And not only do they cost anything from a few hundred dollars to well over a thousand, but the waiting list is anything from six weeks to five months. Before making that sort of investment, you certainly need to be serious, as a minimum, about trying male chastity out
It's not something you can simply jump into for a couple of days and get a good feel for it.
I believe if your husband expects you to put all this work in to give him what he wants he should be prepared to let you have those keys for at least a year.
This isn't to say you have to deny his orgasms for a year (although there's no reason not to, as I'll explain in a moment), but I does mean he has to agree he will allow you to control his orgasms for at least that long before he can back out of it.
I'd go even further and suggest you don't even discuss it with him seriously unless he meets this critical criterion. The reason I say this is not to be heartless, but because I know that, with rare exception, the first few days or weeks of male chastity are very difficult for a man. He'll ask for mercy, and you'll give in. But then in a few weeks or days, he'll be bugging you about it again.
If you think I'm being mean, just put it into the frame of a common experience to many people: he's got a new job and it means you moving to a new area, a new town, a new state, or even a new country. And what does he say? "Just give it a year and if you still feel the same way, we'll come back".
That's fair. And so is demanding he gives male chastity a fair try, too.
After all, it's more effort and responsibility for you than you might at first realise, and you're putting a lot of time and money into it.
Finally to get the most out of it...
Have realistic expectations!
There's no doubt it's thrilling and sexy, and the beneficial results far exceed the energy and time you devote to it, but male chastity cannot prevent everyday concerns still being there. It's not a short-cut to Nirvana. The chances are you'll get 80% of the fun and benefits in just 20% of the time you spend doing it.
This means your man (because he's got his lust burning away and bottled up) is going to be frustrated and bored for long periods of time.
So don't let this surprise you. Expect it and be prepared. He asked for it, remember?
Male chastity and giving you control of his orgasms means just that: you have control. It's all consensual so he can back out if he wants to, but then you can refuse to play, too, can't you?
But be a little understanding. Don't get bitchy and short tempered with him if he seems to be bothering you about his needs and desires. Try to keep a smile on your face and, when appropriate, remind him of what he asked for and the year he agreed to (if he's cranky, save these comments until he's calmed down - this isn't worth fighting about).
Above all, remember you're sharing this experience, just as you're sharing your lives together. You're presumably doing this because you want to be more lustful, have more fun and become more loving and intimate with one another.
Male chastity is something you do with someone, not to them. Don't lose sight of that, and you'll be fine.
by: Sarah Jameson
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