Men How to Get Over Your Fear of Commitment
Men How to Get Over Your Fear of Commitment
Does the thought committing to one woman make you feel nervous? Although many men eventually settle down and leave their bachelor ways behind them, a large number of men have a genuine fear of commitment. If you fall into this category, there is no need to worry that you are alone. However, instead of allowing this fear of commitment to hinder your future relationship plans, here are some ways to get over your fear of commitment and develop lasting relationships.
The first step in solving your fear of commitment is understanding what you are afraid of. Are you worried that you might settle down with the wrong person? Do you feel that you will lose your masculinity if you commit to a woman? Did you parents get divorced, causing you to feel nervous at the thought of matrimony? When it comes to settling down with the wrong person, you have to trust your instincts. When something is right, you will know it, and when it's wrong, you'll know it. Instead of second-guessing your decision, trust yourself and you will make the right decision. It is a misconception that women are trying to strip men of their masculinity. Women are feminine creatures so it is possible that they will unknowingly attempt to transfer some of their femininity to you. However, women are really looking for men who are masculine, so all you have to do is stand your ground and remain as masculine as possible, and she will be even more attracted to you. Just because your parents made a decision, that doesn't mean your future has to follow that same course. Instead of feeling paralyzed with the fear of history repeating itself, start with a clean slate.
Sometimes the fear of commitment comes from the fact that you don't actually want to settle down. Ask yourself if you actually want to settle down, and if that is not your desire, then that's probably why you have been feeling uneasy about the concept.
If you've experienced pain in a past relationship, you should not allow things from the past to cause you to avoid commitment. Everyone has been hurt, and if everyone stopped loving because of broken hearts, there would be no more love in the world. Instead of just ignoring the pain, it is important to deal with the pain so you can truly be ready to move forward.
The fear of the unknown is very often why people feel uneasy about committing to a relationship. However, if you never discuss the future, it will rule your decisions and leave you feeling unsure. Do either of you see children in your futures? Will you move into her place or your place, or should you buy a new place together? These are things that are important to remember when it comes to taking the relationship to the next level. By taking the time to sit down and talk with your significant other about your future together, and things will seem less intimidating and mysterious. And when you are not worried about the future, the relationship will thrive.