NICE GUYS VS. JERKS (WHY ITS ALL RUBBISH)
NICE GUYS VS
NICE GUYS VS. JERKS (WHY ITS ALL RUBBISH)
Hey Guys, today I want to look at a topic I'm often asked about, why do women go for jerks instead of nice guys? Lets begin by defining the makeup of a jerk verses nice guy.
The Jerk
Is inherently self-centered
Adopts the philosophy of "treat them mean, keep them keen"
Actively encourages sexual escalation
Is arrogant in their believe systems and their actions
Knows what he wants and is unapologetic about it
Views women as objects
Is unpredictable and is a challenge
Plays on a women's insecurities
The Nice Guy
Is inherently passive
Adopts the philosophy of "if I'm nice she must like me"
Avoids sexual escalation
Changes their believe system and actions to suit her
Is generous and kind to everyone
Will not disagree with people
Doesn't court controversy and avoids conflict
Has a unwarranted sense of entitlement for being nice'
The Good and The Bad
Those observant among you will have noticed that the depiction of The Jerk versus The Nice Guy are almost opposite in their nature, each having their good points and bad points.
The Nice Guy is usually the friend' and with good reason. They are kind, reliable, open, stable and well.so darn nice. While these qualities are great in a guy, the Nice Guy certainly has his downside. The Nice Guy will often start out as their own person, but then changes when they show interest in a woman or become involved with one. They have a high agreeableness quota' and tend to become passive, aiming to always please the women and letting her make all the decisions. This situation places huge pressure on the women and thus will inevitably end it.
A seldom-realized truth that The Nice Guy forgets is that the majority of the time everyone is nice to an attractive woman. The Jerk therefore represents a change from this social norm, and thus becomes of interest. The Jerk is mysterious, exciting and key is sexually confident and won't make excuses to talk to a woman. Women are clever (usually more than us guys) and know the game is afoot. However, The Jerk of course has there downside, they are unreliable, selfish and play on a women's insecurities.
So why are women attracted to The Jerk and not The Nice Guy? The Jerk has more qualities that a woman is attracted when compared to The Nice Guy, enough so that they will tolerate their darker side.
The answer is to be a hybrid of both The Jerk and The Nice Guy, with both of their strengths and none of their weaknesses.
Meet The Good Guy.
The Good Guy
Is very rare
Has high social value
Is loyal to the people he cares about
Has high standards when choosing friends, lovers and partners
Lives his own life and values his independence
Will stand up for himself and is no pushover
Is not afraid to challenge a women
Encourages sexual attraction when it is present
Most Importantly
Views himself as the prize and not the women
How to be The Good Guy
The Good Guy is the middle road' between The Jerk and The Nice Guy. He takes care and is loyal to those he chooses, but can also flip the attraction triggers' (Will be discussed at a later date) of a woman.
Here are Doc. Luv's top ten tips to be The Good Guy:
1. If you have different opinions don't be afraid to show them
2. Have high standards in all areas of your life
3. Establish your own boundaries
4. Never poke fun at others misfortune
5. Challenge her by being playful, sarcastic and tease her
6. Be aware and don't comply with a women's shit tests'
7. Don't apologize for teasing or disagreeing with a women
8. Don't shy away form sexual escalation
9. Have your own life outside of your relationship with a women
10. Quality is better than quantity
Peace Out.
Doc. Luv
http://docdating.blogspot.com/
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