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Overcoming a Breakup – 4 Guidelines to Overcoming a Breakup
Unless you met the love of your life and stayed with them forever
, you must have experienced the ending of a love affair. Here are some tips on overcoming a breakup:1) Be nice to yourself:
While you may be feeling low and unloved, the end of a relationship doesn't have to signify you stay on your own forever. Mr or Ms Right could be the next person to walk through the door. For the time being be nice to yourself. Do all the things you wanted to do but your last lover wasn't interested in. There are probably some shows and films that you would love to see. Grab some friends (not literally) and head out for the evening.
2) Don't be seen as being fraught:
Anxiety is not an attractive emotion in anyone. If you want your ex to take you back, you need to show them what they are missing. They won't want someone who is miserable constantly. They want the person they initially fell in love with.
So despite how you are feeling you always need to present the best side of you in public. Dress nicely so you look great and above all wear a smile on your face. Even if you feel like you are going to die from the pain, you never know when you will meet your ex or a mutual friend, so act happy; even if it is the performance of your life. You can cry into your pillow when you are home by yourself.
3) Don't let your life come to a standstill:
Yes! I said you could cry into your pillow but I didn't mean all day every day. Feeling miserable after a break up is normal but if you wallow in self pity, you generally end up feeling bad. There is more to life than any partner so get out there and start enjoying yourself. You may have to pretend for a while but soon you will find that you are actually having fun again.
4) Don't over analyze what went pear shaped*:
Yes we need to learn from our mistakes but the breakup may not have been your mistake. It could simply be that the other person got scared of commitment i.e. cold feet. If they get in contact, consent to meet them for a drink and see how things go. Be respectful and listen to what they have to say. If they want you back, don't be too ready, but agree to see how it goes.
If you were the one who finished things, but now realize you made a mistake, tell your ex. They are not mind readers and they won't know you want to revive your love affair unless you tell them.