Pulling Your Family Together For Christmas After Your Husband Cheats
Pulling Your Family Together For Christmas After Your Husband Cheats
There are few things in life that are more devastating to marriages than a cheating spouse. The holidays can be a particularly painful time of year to discover that your husband has been cheating on you. But if you are really committed to making the most of the holidays for your family you can pull your family together for Christmas even though your husband has been cheating on you.
Here are just a few of the things you'll need to do to make that happen.
Compartmentalize
It's difficult in the best of times but now it is completely necessary. You need to be able to lock away the frustration, hurt, and even anger you are feeling in order to get through the stress and strain of ordinary holiday commitments.
It's unlikely that you're going to be in any condition to forgive, forget, and move on by Christmas but you can push it aside for the time being and wait until the holidays have passed to officially deal with all the corresponding emotions.
The good news is that this extra time will help prevent you from saying things you really don't mean in the heat of an emotional meltdown while also giving you a little time to gain perspective and let reason rule any decisions concerning what you should do next.
Prioritize
There are many things going on for you and your family during the holidays. Decide on which things need to be dealt with now and what can wait until the holidays have passed.
Keep in mind, as you make your decision, whether or not you'll be able to pretend all is well while going through the motions of all the family engagements and command attendance events for you both between now and Christmas. Are you really prepared to meet the challenge? Do you believe you can both pull off the family togetherness until the holidays have passed?
Count Your Blessings
It may seem difficult at a time like this but that is what Christmas is about after all. You do have a loving family and the odds are good that your marriage seemed to be solid until the moment you found out your husband was cheating on you. You have plenty of blessings in your life and as you look at the world around you, you just might discover that a cheating husband, while painful, is not the end of the world nor does it have to be the end of your marriage.